To be upset at DH posting pregnancy announcment on social media

[Bloopsie]

Had a 20wk scan, high risk pregnancy for multiple reasons, not out first child I have always held back with social media post until after c section and when the baby has been safely delivered. Husband posted a scan photo and a message without talking to me, am I hormonal and unreasonable but I got real annoyed, I am a private person and until the baby is here the closest people know only.

My MIL announced my pregnancy on social media before even informing me so I definitely feel for you. I’m also a private person and would’ve preferred not posting anything at all until I’d had my baby but maybe you should give him the benefit of the doubt, he’s obviously excited and was a bit careless to not let you know first. I don’t think he did it to purposely upset you, he just wanted to show everyone how happy he is. Try not to overthink this because it’s been done now, I guarantee it’ll be off your mind soon 💐

I would be really pissed off if anyone posted a picture of the inside of my actual body without consulting me first.

I mean, presumably anyone you see will know now?

I’d be annoyed, but not furious.

This. It's my body, my scan, my medical information.

He can post about expecting a child, that's his information too. But not the scan.

I’d be so annoyed. I’ve never put anything pregnancy related on fb, DH feels the same.

It might be your shared baby but it’s your pregnancy and a scan picture is of your uterus. Tell him to take it down.

Why’s he done it? Scan pictures on social media are naff as anything. He’s an idiot.

If you have social media, you are NOT a private person...

YANBU

He knows that you’re a private person and have had issues in the past and not even to tell you or talk about it before doing so is bonkers. Did he do it because he knew you would be against it?

This is not a valid argument, I have social media from years ago but I barely post anything now and keep it mainly for memories and to keep in touch with the odd person.

That’s utter BS.

People can have social media and not disclose things about their health and body.

There’s a difference and you know it.

Oh I am my profile pic is of me when I was 5 and everything else is at minimum, I dont post or share things, I havent added personal information etc. I use my account to keep up to date with friends and relatives but through private messages.

I'm so glad I'm not on SM.

Inform DH that if there are any problems that it will be up to him to tell everybody and to say firmly that they are not to approach you at all.
I hope all does go well OP and you have a joyous outcome.

I’d be annoyed too. I mean I guess he could just be excited and not thinking but it just seems common sense that you talk about these things together and decide when you’re telling people.

• He has taken the post down,apologised and said he was just excited.

Tbh I dont think he understands why I got so annoyed.

Depends on if she is showing or not and many people don’t disclose until after the 20 week anomaly scan anyway.

Ouch, out of curiousity did you bring it up with her or let it slip?

Plenty of people for post these things, so it is norm. Did you have a conversion about not putting it on social media? I don't post many pictures of the kids online and when I do I check with dp first. Sounds like it maybe wasn't clear what you were comfortable with? I say this as someone who was highly annoyed when a friend posted on my page that I had had the baby. Who does that?!

I would prefer him not to do it but I would take it for what it is, a very excited expectant father and would ask him nicely to take it down, rather than get stroppy over.

you can't just use the exuse of being hormonal to be annoyed at your husband when it's his child too, yes maybe he could have posted something that wasn't the scan but ikd it just feels like you think you're the only one entitled to share any news