To NOT know what to do !!!

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I know nobody can tell me what to do or give me specific advice, I just wanted to post to see id anyone else had been in a similar position and had any tips or experience.

I don’t know whether to take a job elsewhere or stay at my current job.

I love my job in a lot of ways, and don’t love it in many others. It’s great for things like absences- I’ve only been ill once which was for covid, and I’m not exactly planning on being off in the future, but it’s nice to know that they have a nice attitude if anything happened and I was unwell, it would mean I wasn’t worrying about work/my bosses being angry at me- they’re very much of the attitude that they can be chilled out, as long as you don’t take the piss. My general manager and seniors are genuinely lovely people too and so are 99% of my colleagues. It’s a really nice place overall. However, there are things that are not quite right too and I suppose it’s frustrating. Some collegues not pulling their weight or doing their work properly which means it falls on us to do their job properly or fix their mistakes. And the collegues in question have been made aware that they need to cop on, but they don’t and nobody really pulls them up on it, it’s just sort of expected now that that’s how they are and this is how it is. There’s been a few times I’ve had to pick up the slack and have made a small mistake and been told off for it and felt a bit put out- I don’t know why they can’t just sort out the people who refuse to do their job correctly instead of the people working overtime to rectify the mistakes. I think it’s just very non confrontational as a workplace and it’s easier to let things slide. But it’s frustrating I suppose- we’re talking people sitting on their phone watching family guy instead of work.

im not perfect at all and i make mistakes too, but recently I’ve just been feeling a bit under appreciated at work and a bit fed up.

I’ve got the opportunity to do a similar job elsewhere in a separate company. But the risk is that my new collegues aren’t as nice as my current ones, or I don’t make any friends, or that the bosses are horrible whereas there are so many good aspects of my job and I know how many people would kill to have a nice boss,

the issues at my current work are minor but it’s frustrating to have the same problems happening every single day and nobody deals with it for years, and then when the rest of us have to pick up the slack it doesn’t feel like we’re appreciated I suppose

ah, my head is a mess. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to throw away something good for something that might be worse. Sorry for posting here- I just feel so mixed about it all and my mom is absolutely sick of me going on about it because I don’t know what to do!

another big part of it is the travelling time- my new position would be 15 minutes with no rush our vs 1 hour+ in rush hour before and after work. On paper it seems worth the risk, but what if the next place isn’t as nice as my current place? Or the bosses aren’t as nice? Or my collegues aren’t as nice, or maybe worse? Maybe I’m going from a place with small problems to a place with worse problems, ah my head is so mixed up. I don’t know whether to risk it or not !

Take the new job.

I think I would only leave if the other role was better paid. All companies have their issues and I wouldn't take the risk to make a sideways step unless the pay made it worthwhile.

You are catastrophising. What if the new job is better, the new colleagues nicer, the problems smaller?

A new job is daunting, but you really aren't giving rational, concrete reasons why you'd turn it down. You just sound a bit scared. But I think you can do it.

If the new job turns out to be shit then you will get another one. They're only jobs.

I think it’s just very non confrontational as a workplace and it’s easier to let things slide.

Well, non-confrontational for the person being lazy but they’re confronting you on mistakes made when you’re having to do other people’s jobs?

You won’t know if it’s better unless you try it, but your current job is bothering you enough that you’ll always wonder if you don’t. And you’re getting back 1.5 hours per day in commute time.

Assuming the new role has an equal/better salary, I think you should take it.

You'll gain an hour and a half a day with the shorter commute, that's 7.5 hours (or more) every week!

If your current company value you, they might make a counter offer anyway and at that point you can explain your frustrations with the people who don't pull their weight.

A decent manager will soon realise they're at risk of losing all the people who do the actual work and keeping only those who do bugger all (though they should have really realised that already 🙄)

I had a very similar dilemma 6 months ago. I was under appreciated in my last job, I’d worked there for over a decade. I had friends there. Leaving was a massive decision but it was the right one. My new colleagues are great and I work in a much more exciting and professional environment. I didn’t burn my bridges and left my old job on good terms. But I wouldn’t go back now.

I’d go for it.

It's worth it because of the reduced commute.

My view on this is that there’s no point moving for a same level job if your current workplace isn’t unbearable. All work places have good points and bad points, and you don’t discover them all until you’ve been doing it for a while.

The impetus to move should be to progress, not just do same job, different setting.

Aim higher.