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Neighbours guitar and singing

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User145655 · 12/01/2023 15:46

Is it reasonable for me to ask my neighbour (terrace) to play his guitar (and sing at the top of his lungs) in a room that doesn't adjoin our property and/or play his guitar/ sing after working hours (i.e. after 17:00)?

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NeuroWasabi · 12/01/2023 18:16

I'm on the fence... He's entitled to make the noise unless it's night time, and if it weren't affecting your work I'd say that you can just get some noise cancelling headphones. The modern ones are fantastic and really that would be a minor adjustment.

As it is, if you're working and need quiet I'd go over and ask him for a favour. If you're respectful and polite he may agree to avoid playing when it's affecting your work.

ifoundthebread · 12/01/2023 18:19

Why dont you move where you work to the opposite side of the house?

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User145655 · 12/01/2023 18:45

ifoundthebread · 12/01/2023 18:19

Why dont you move where you work to the opposite side of the house?

That's the plan! I'm in the process of changing rooms (hence the diy comment). But unfortunately it's so loud you can basically hear it throughout our entire house that's why I thought him moving away from the party wall may also mitigate it. He's the end terrace so wouldn't impact anyone on the other side.

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Fushiadreams · 12/01/2023 18:45

ifoundthebread · 12/01/2023 18:19

Why dont you move where you work to the opposite side of the house?

Honestly I don’t get this, it doesn’t matter what music he’s blaring out, it’s not ok,

Myyearmytime · 12/01/2023 18:50

As someone who lived under guitarist and singer for year . Where he in house won't make any difference.
A normal guitar is sooo loud .

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User145655 · 12/01/2023 18:52

Myyearmytime · 12/01/2023 18:50

As someone who lived under guitarist and singer for year . Where he in house won't make any difference.
A normal guitar is sooo loud .

I can imagine you are right 😔

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Squirespot · 12/01/2023 20:40

If he moves away from your party wall, he will presumably be on the neighbour the others side party wall. So that's ok?

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User145655 · 12/01/2023 20:43

Squirespot · 12/01/2023 20:40

If he moves away from your party wall, he will presumably be on the neighbour the others side party wall. So that's ok?

@Squirespot he is end of terrace - no neighbours on the other side. So yes that will be OK.

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larkstar · 12/01/2023 22:40

I play acoustic guitar, sing and write my own songs. I don't play my electric guitar or bass through anything but headphones at home. I live in a garage link attached house but have an end plot do only one immediate next door neighbour to worry about. I would not want to upset or disturb my neighbour in any way - fortunately I have great neighbours and a great relationship with them going back 20 years. She hears me if she's heading out to get car on the driveway - my study where I play is at the front and right next to my driveway. I think my neighbour had the perfect right to live happily, undisturbed in hey own home - if I disturbed her I would consider myself to be the one doing something antisocial, selfish and inconsiderate - just because it's my home I don't think I have the right to do what the hell I like in it - I live in a community, with other people - I would have to go elsewhere to rehearse or make arrangements or take steps to minimise the impact it would have on my neighbour - I can't believe how ignorant and selfish so many people are. If you're going to have a noisy party with lots of people and cars I don't think a host in a domestic area is the right place for our - hire somewhere appropriate and be considerate. If you're unhappy go round and let them know what an impact is having - ideally you want a good relationship so that you feel free to say when it's not a good time and can reciprocate by putting up with some noise at other times - me and my neighbour WhatsApp each other regularly about all kinds of stuff. If you're neighbour isn't aware he's disturbing you maybe he's a bit thoughtless and lacking in awareness - maybe he will be more thoughtful of you make it clear what the problem is for you. If he's going to be a selfish d!ck you have to keep a record of it, keep complaining directly to him and report to environmental health I think. I have had them respond to my complaints about barking dogs that were not being looked after (unkempt, matted coats, not walked) by a family who all had learning difficulties - 3 generations in one house - who were well known to social services - harmless enough people - just struggling with everything in life.

Suedomin · 12/01/2023 22:46

if noise can be heard from another property, it's too loud.
Well in my house that would mean that no one is allowed to sneeze, cough or talk louder than a whisper.

Thesonglastslonger · 12/01/2023 23:48

Wfh in a terrace isn’t going to work well. Could you look into hiring local office space or going to your employer’s office?

You can’t ask people to keep their homes quiet unless he is extremely loud / doing it at unsocial hours.

You’re working but perhaps he is too? Working hours is exactly when he should be making noise, it’s early evening when children are trying to sleep that he should be quiet.

And by the way the noise from work phone calls carries much further than you think…

Thesonglastslonger · 12/01/2023 23:48

Suedomin · 12/01/2023 22:46

if noise can be heard from another property, it's too loud.
Well in my house that would mean that no one is allowed to sneeze, cough or talk louder than a whisper.

When I lived in a Victorian terrace I could hear when my neighbours put a cup down on the table.

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