Is this controlling ??

[Shoot4theMoon]

My partner I think is trying to control me. If I fall asleep early then he will moan at me constantly saying he feels unloved because I don’t spend time with him, iv just had our second child and I’m very tired, when I go out to collect our other child from school he tracks my phone and if I go a different route he rings me to see why iv gone that way…. That is all basically he doesn’t control what I wear or my money but I feel the way he’s going on isn’t normal and I’m beginning to get fed up of him. AIBU for thinking this is controlling behaviour??

Was it a one off and he happened to just check and spot you'd gone a way he wouldn't have? Or he literally tracks your phone each time you go out?

It is. Please get help

@Ryin its happened 3 times in 2 weeks that iv went a different way and each time he’s rang me to ask why and once I went to the pharmacy before school as I needed some lady bits and he rang me just as I got there and said where are you??? So he knew I wasn’t at school. So makes me think he does it constantly

This is very controlling. Get in touch with women's aid. Sounds like he would escalate if you leave him, but you must leave him. He will only get worse.

It's extremely controlling! I'd recommend you get away from him x

Oh fuck that.

Get away from that. God knows what else he's doing to check up on you. A few weeks ago there was a thread where someone's partner had been in control of her phone and emails with disastrous results, and she had no idea until something significant happened to alert her.

Hopefully he will pay child support and you can be rid of him.

You shouldn’t be tracked. Check for cameras in the house. Change all your passwords and be aware of keystroke loggers.

You are a fully grown woman with all the autonomy in the world. Do not expect him to change because HE LIKES WHAT HE IS.

I wouldn’t answer your phone. And tell him he’s being ridiculous.

your an adult and he’s not your Dad! I wouldn’t be with someone like this though.

That is all basically he doesn’t control what I wear or my money

Tracking you is far worse. Did you really expect us all to reply "oh he just loves you soooo much he wants to know where you are at all times, it's perfectly normal"?!

He's dangerous and you need to get the hell out of this relationship.

I told him today I wanted a walk alone to clear my head he said I’ll come too then I said no it’s too cold for the baby you stay with the baby at home now he’s accusing me of cheating because I want to go for a walk alone

Get rid of him. That's creepy and unacceptable. turn off the location thing on your phone. Have you asked him about tracking you?

yes it is controlling and abusive please talk to your family or a friend and call women’s aid. This won’t get better I’m sorry.

Remove tracking app

it is controlling

No way would I put up with that shit

doesn’t he work seems to have too much time to be checking up on you

please leave this piece is shit you and your children will be better off

I bet he goes where he wants to though absolute parasite

Delete the tracking app.

Yes he works full time

It’s not a tracking app I just have an iPhone

Do you track his phone? If not tell him you want to start

This sounds horrible and I think you need to get rid of him. It's phone tracking now, but it will only escalate into something worse. I am trying to heed my own advice as I am in a controlling relationship with 2 kids and it's hard to just leave. So fucking hard 😓