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AIBU?

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Original poster

Aibu or is my ex

27 replies

Marshmello33 · 11/01/2023 18:33

I'll try and keep it simple. I've got 2 girls with my ex, was with him 7years been broke up nearly 3years now.
If I do something he gets the right arse because I don't invite him, like tonight I decided to take me and the girls to the local carvery after school I'm one of them annoying people who posted my lovely dinner on fb 🙈he gets the right hump because I didn't take him! I'm stopping him from seeing kids or enjoying times like that with them apparently. Aibu for not inviting my ex to anything I choose to do??

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Ryin · 11/01/2023 18:36

The only YABU is posting the carvery on FB 🤣🤣

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Marshmello33 · 11/01/2023 18:38

I no 🤣I need to sort my life out 😅

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SpinningFloppa · 11/01/2023 18:45

I’m assuming you usually invite him to things otherwise that is really unusual behaviour from him so I’m guessing there’s more to it?

Ihearticecream · 11/01/2023 18:47

Why can’t he take his DC to the carvery when he has them?
Has he no thought of what would be a nice thing to do!

TheFlis12345 · 11/01/2023 18:50

Why on earth does he think you would want to hang out with your ex?!? Presumably he has access and sees them regularly, does he invite you to every single thing he does during that time?

StrawberryWater · 11/01/2023 18:50

He’s being an idiot. You’re not together any more so why act like you are?

If he wants to do things with the kids then he can do it on his own time.

But he won’t because I bet he’s too lazy to plan it and too tight to pay. He’s probably just miffed that he missed out in a free meal.

Theunamedcat · 11/01/2023 18:52

Does he do this publicly?

The only response is...I assume you have forgotten we split up x years ago

Brenna24 · 11/01/2023 18:52

StrawberryWater · 11/01/2023 18:50

He’s being an idiot. You’re not together any more so why act like you are?

If he wants to do things with the kids then he can do it on his own time.

But he won’t because I bet he’s too lazy to plan it and too tight to pay. He’s probably just miffed that he missed out in a free meal.

Exactly this.

mininip · 11/01/2023 18:54

Block him from seeing your social media?

Hankunamatata · 11/01/2023 18:56

Block him on fb for a start. Then tell him to get a grip and he can take girls out if he wants to

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Marshmello33 · 11/01/2023 19:58

I don't invite him to anything I can't stand him 🤣I try and have has little has I can to do with him.
He has them most Sundays for a few hours and if they are doing anything he wants me to go which I have done occasionally for the girls. It's like he wants all the family stuff with us then go and do what he wants the rest of the time! Pain in the arse!

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Marshmello33 · 11/01/2023 20:00

Oh and has for blocking him on sm I've only just added him back on there after 2 years of bliss due to him missing out of pics of the girls etc 🙄he really does play the role of me dening contact well 🙈

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Ihatethenewlook · 11/01/2023 20:02

I think you need to completely stop doing things with him all together, you are well too intertwined for someone who’s been broken up for 3 years. Block him on social media and only communicate about contact. You can’t really go on family days out with him and then complain when he expects the same.

Ihearticecream · 11/01/2023 20:02

Block him on sm and send him directly all the pictures of the girls

NeverHadANickname · 11/01/2023 20:08

YANBU. Definitely block him again.

Aloezebra · 11/01/2023 20:12

He sounds annoying, why on earth would he be invited to activities you do, as a parent, with your children? You’re not a couple!

Delete off social media so you can post pictures of you dinner in peace, if he wants pictures of the girls that badly you can send them (as and when it suits you) directly

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Marshmello33 · 11/01/2023 20:15

Aloezebra · 11/01/2023 20:12

He sounds annoying, why on earth would he be invited to activities you do, as a parent, with your children? You’re not a couple!

Delete off social media so you can post pictures of you dinner in peace, if he wants pictures of the girls that badly you can send them (as and when it suits you) directly

See he always turns it on me and says they are his children 2 and I'm stopping him from doing things with them to. In my eyes I'm not with him I shouldn't have to ask him 2 join in everything we do!

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Marshmello33 · 11/01/2023 20:16

Ihatethenewlook · 11/01/2023 20:02

I think you need to completely stop doing things with him all together, you are well too intertwined for someone who’s been broken up for 3 years. Block him on social media and only communicate about contact. You can’t really go on family days out with him and then complain when he expects the same.

I haven't done anything with him/girls for months it's very occasionally! If u didn't have 2 speak 2 him every again I would be one happy woman lol

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Aloezebra · 11/01/2023 20:16

Is there a reason he only has them once a week?

RewildingAmbridge · 12/01/2023 11:49

Surely if he wants to do things with them he takes them when he has contact! Only exceptions I would make would be their birthdays but I know lots don't, and I'd expect him to be at parents evening, sports day, concerts etc even if I didn't want him to be

HandbagsnGladrags · 12/01/2023 12:00

FFS stand up to him and block him on FB.

Brefugee · 12/01/2023 12:03

Stop doing "family" things when he asks, you are not a family. Maybe you're giving your girls false hope by doing that?

Block him on SM and email him photos if you like. Communicate only by email.

YABU though because i really fancy a carvery now.

pawprintseverywhere · 12/01/2023 12:06

Get him blocked on social media. Tell him you will send him updates and pics via an alternative messaging platform. That way you are not cutting out contact from him ect but he can't Snoop about your buisness

MeridianB · 12/01/2023 12:07

Ihatethenewlook · 11/01/2023 20:02

I think you need to completely stop doing things with him all together, you are well too intertwined for someone who’s been broken up for 3 years. Block him on social media and only communicate about contact. You can’t really go on family days out with him and then complain when he expects the same.

This. Step back from him again.

DDivaStar · 12/01/2023 12:13

Just message back
'If you want to collect them from school one day and take them for dinner just let me know

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