Firstly, I’m new here so bare with me whilst I waffle on.
The thing is that for a very long time I’ve felt I’m the only one who makes an effort. I’m talking with family and friends. I feel that if I don’t instigate contact to meet up or even verbally catch up, it won’t happen.
I always put it down to everyone having busy lives, I get it- work, parenting, stresses of life, the list goes on. However, it dawned on me recently I’m not exempt from that so how comes I spend so much of my time thinking of others, wondering when we could fit in the next catch up or just simply wondering how they are. I wonder if I’m being too kind? Then I wonder if there’s such thing as being too kind?… All I see is other mums at the school going on lunch dates, approaching each other in the playground and having conversations. If I approach them we talk but I’ve had them stand next to me or walk past and not even say hello. Friends and family never organise things or make contact first. Believe me I have done it all and seem to never have it back. I don’t expect anything but to feel appreciated and liked would be a blessing.
So, my point is if this is normal? Am I overreacting, being too sensitive etc? And what is a ‘normal’ level of contact via text and face to face to expect? TIA