I grew up poor (council house, parents in unstable jobs, rows about debt being routine, deprived area etc). Many of my school peers never escaped the patterns of behaviour from previous generations - drugs, alcohol problems, teen pregnancy.
I moved out young and ended up in a role which is well paid - think akin to accounting (I'm not like a CFO but work in a stable practice in a career role, not super senior but consistent income - team leader is basically what I do, so junior middle management).
When I return home I'm often hearing comments about my job, and starting to feel resentful because the instigators have no idea how hard I work, my stress levels are high and I work long hours - it's not "free money" and I don't think they have any idea how my finances might work in practice. I'm in Scotland so pay higher tax rates (about £1.5k less net per year due to being in the bracket where at 43k your income tax rises higher than the rest of the UK).
I'm finding situations like a relative deciding that an ailing relative (who I don't like or know well) needs elderly care. Then looking up carers and saying how can I pay my share (straight into the organisers bank account where she'll pay the carer agency direct). I thought it was a joke but apparently this was a serious suggestion. I pushed back and said that wouldn't be happening.
If we go for a meal or drinks, family just expect me to cover it - no asking or even a thanks, just always someone asking if I've sorted the bill. I'm agreeing to go out rarely now due to this.
Aibu to be feeling really resentful that other people in my life seem really happy to dip their fingers in my pockets on the back of my hard work, yet don't even appreciate it? Or even ask what the real deal is. They just assume I'm loaded, which isn't the case.