Do I tell him to piss off.. kindly?

[madflush]

Broke up with Pete r a few weeks ago.
A typical narc who left me a shell of myself.
Now he's back trying to hoover his exes or anyone who will answer his messages.
My birthday is on Sunday.
I know he'll message.
He's blocked everywhere except for email.
Do I tell him to piss off.
I'm not rude but feel angered and humiliated.
Not used to this type of person.

Don't engage at all! they leave you alone when they get no reaction.

Block his email, ignore him.

Just block by email. Why would you not? If you genuinely want him to piss off just block him, it’ll only ruin your day!

I can't block him on my email account. I've even googled it earlier!

Block, everywhere

And if you do tell him to piss off, do not do so 'kindly'.

As above, don’t engage at all. Block him.

If you decide to tell him where to go don’t use “p*ss off” language.
Just say “Please do not contact me again.”

Who needs the stress or drama?

That's a good answer.
Nice and simple.

You message back
Who's this?

I think I'm kind of afraid of him. He will absolutely destroy my name and part of me wants to keep him sweet to avoid that.
He has a notoriously dangerous tongue.

Just send it to junk or delete it unopened and ignore him.

Why would you even waste your time? Mark it as junk and bin it.

Based on your update, don't reply to anything.

Just leave it undread.

If he continues to bother you, warn him once 'do not contact me again'.

Don't say please. It puts you in the submissive position. His kind see that like a red flag - that you are an easy target.

*unread

Dont delete the messages though. Incase you need them later on to demonstrate harassment.

If he tries to 'destroy you' by means of slander/blackmail ect..
Go to the police. Often showing u are happy and fast to get the police involved is the only thing these sort take as a deterrent.

You can block him - just mark him as spam.

Can you fake a bounce back reply so he thinks you’ve changed your email??

The quicker you stop responding, the quicker he will move on.

Now he's back trying to hoover his exes or anyone who will answer his messages
Exactly!! So don't respond! That's what he wants.

I don't think he will harass me but his ego is bruised and he really has nothing to lose at this stage.
I was his meal ticket but he pushed it too far and had a strop when I wouldn't have him move in and take me for a further mug.
He is straight back to his exes now so maybe he is fulfilled.
Fingers crossed.
I feel anxious.

Delete the email without reading it

As others have said - either delete the emails without reading them when you see his name - but also blacklist his email address so that any emails go direct to Junk rather than your inbox if you can

Then just IGNORE any contact. Do not reply to him at all. He'll give up eventually

A simple and curt ‘please do not contact me again’ if you have to, followed by a ‘I will report you to the police if you continue to harass me’ if he fails to comply.

Ignore him. Don’t give him any oxygen. You certainly shouldn’t be doing anything “kindly”.

This reads like a poem, I actually really like it. I’d genuinely buy a book of poetry like this - it’s so raw and genuine and exposed.

But, yeah, block.

Polite email back “ if you email again I am calling police” that should do it

Definitely keep any messages in case you need proof he's harassing you