To think this is hurtful?

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To comment on someone who has 2 chronic health issues by saying that they rest too much?

On the face of it yes of course.

But you've started the thread so do you want to give a bit more info, or did you just want 'yes/no' answers?

Context is needed here.

We have no idea what your chronic health issues are or who said it. Some chronic health issues can we worsened or improved by exercise.

It depends. Do they rest too much? It's not uncommon for people with pain/breathlessness to resist physical activity altogether (through fear or discomfort) when sometimes it's beneficial.

Well, yes it is rude.

Why are people generally so horrible and refuse to show any empathy

Don’t drip feed

Depends what the context is. What prompted the conversation?

Context would be needed.

Is it a well informed doctor who is an expert in those conditions? Or a rude colleague? Makes a difference.

And hate saying this but are they diagnosed by medic?

Depends if it’s accurate and how them testing impacts the party making those comments.

your spouse who is left dealing with 99% of the housework while you rest - YABU

a work colleague who is being nosey - YANBU

Well if one of the chronic illnesses is knee pain from being overweight, and the other is breathlessness from the same… yeah, more moving less resting.

As we’re playing a guessing game 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yes, that is quite rude and insensitive

Resting too much can be a factor for some chronic conditions, and since you give no info I'm going to go with YABU.

My sister had joint pain because she was incredibly overweight. She also developed a condition which caused her tiredness, but a dietary change and exercise would have vastly improved it and given her a "normal" life.

She chose resting over exercise because exercise was uncomfortable. She got more overweight, got in more pain and her conditions worsened.

Personally, I think everyone needs to get some form of exercise in regularly. Even if it's just a 15 minute walk or some chair exercises. Resting too much is bad for everyone unless on their death beds.

Are you coming back?

I'm going to guess you mean depression and anxiety on this one and perhaps someone has suggested get some exercise and don't mope about?

I don't believe it's good manners to comment on personal circumstances when it's not your concern but if it was a well meaning family member or very good friend perhaps they thought they were trying to help and meant well so I wouldn't take it as a personal attack.

I would only take the advice of a medical professional who knows your condition sometimes well meaning people don't always know what to say or understand your condition.

I have a chronic health condition and it isn't helped by exercise. I have to force myself to do tasks. Even go for a wee. I work ft. But a desk job and do 3 days from home. If someone told me I rest too much I would rightly tell them to fuck off.

Depends on the context, the conditions, how much the person rests….

If it's a medical professional, and the implication is that greater activity might improve one of the health problems, it might not be hurtful.

If it's a relative or acquaintance shooting their mouth off on 'why can't you be more like me?', then it's definitely hurtful.

I’m sorry someone hurt your feelings, OP.
People love to solve other people’s problems, very likely because they think they know better. With their own, they realise things aren’t always so black and white.

Depends on the health conditions and how the message was conveyed and by whom.

I have ME - for this I must rest. I also have painful osteoarthritis - for this I need to exercise, so I do squats, lunges etc

WTF? You said they have health issues? I hope you are never in the same situation. As someome who has been barely able to move due to severe injury and surgury, I find your post disgusting.