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AIBU to not meet up with friend?

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Alice558 · 09/01/2023 20:12

Hi everyone,
I just wanted some advice really......

I recently just left my job due to workplace mobbing and it was the worst year of my life honestly, i quit with no job as i was fortunately able to (I have savings) and i am now applying for other jobs again.

For the last 6 months my mental health has taken a huge nose dive, i mean really bad. When a wake up i start arguing with someone that isn't there, i mean i get really upset and make up situations in my head. I am 31 years old and live with my parents and i have a boyfriend. I feel like a complete failure.

Now, a friend that i use to be close with is coming down to stay to visit her sister but asked to hang out. We don't really talk that much anymore and i am ok with that. She hasn't done anything bad, however in the past, if you have great news her demeaner changes but if you have bad news, her eyes light up, she doesn't hide it very well. At the moment she has got a great job and i just feel like complete shit, i don't talk about my problems a lot with anyone but i am really dreading meeting up with her and looking for an excuse not to go and i just want to be alone as i sort myself out. I was just going to say i am sick, i just can't face it. She is the main one who initiates contact but i just don't feel like we have anything in common anymore. AIBU?

I was thinking of going GP because i am really worried now.... Has anyone else been through anything like this??
Thank you

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anon12345anon · 09/01/2023 20:16

You need to go to the doctor's lovely - you sound depressed, and in need of some professional advice Flowers

I think the friend is a red herring- get yourself sorted first x wishing you the best...

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Alice558 · 09/01/2023 20:19

@anon12345anon Thank you so much for your reply, i agree i will make an appointment first think tomorrow morning. I have been putting it off but i don't think i can any longer, thank you x

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NapoliTutti · 09/01/2023 20:26

Sounds like depression, good start by reaching out. I was depressed and honestly didnt realise til it got really bad. Got anti depressants and they were such a game changer, got old me back. Working on ways to feel better by myself too, but the pills help hugely.

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Alice558 · 09/01/2023 20:31

@NapoliTutti Thank you so much for your reply, may i ask what pills you are on? I have heard of Sertraline and diazapam thank you x

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Keyansier · 09/01/2023 20:37

You are not a complete failure. Stop putting yourself down unnecessarily. I agree with the others - you sound depressed. I also agree with you that right now, hosting this friend is probably not going to be good for you. You don't need an excuse btw, just say that meeting up with her is not convenient for you at the moment, you have plans.

Keyansier · 09/01/2023 20:37

You are not a complete failure. Stop putting yourself down unnecessarily. I agree with the others - you sound depressed. I also agree with you that right now, hosting this friend is probably not going to be good for you. You don't need an excuse btw, just say that meeting up with her is not convenient for you at the moment, you have plans.

FetchezLaVache · 09/01/2023 20:38

Definitely seek help, but in the meantime don't meet your friend - she doesn't sound like much of one to me anyway, but you'll probably get really anxious in the run-up and that won't do you any good. Saying you're ill is probably a good way to get out of it.

NapoliTutti · 09/01/2023 20:39

Sertaline, its helped me hugely. Very useful tool for finding my feet again.

Keyansier · 09/01/2023 20:41

You are not a complete failure. Stop putting yourself down unnecessarily. I agree with the others

  • you sound depressed. I also agree with you that right now, hosting this friend is probably not going to be good for you. You don't need an excuse btw, just say that meeting up with her is not convenient for you at the moment, you have plans.
anon12345anon · 11/01/2023 21:16

@Alice558
How are you doing?
I hope you have managed to book a doctor appointment? - I just wanted to let you know my experience , AD's saved me . For me I have an imbalance in my head, and these tablets keep me on the straight and narrow.
Sometimes it takes a while to find the right tablets , or dosage for you, but you WILL get there in the end....
It took me years to pluck up the courage to see a doctor, but now I treat them as just a daily medicine....
If you met me you'd have no idea I was on them!
Anyway, I'm garbling now, I just wanted to check in and say hope you are being proactive (despite how hard it is when you are feeling down)....you are a young'un - don't waste time in getting sorted!!! Flowers x

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