Tricky Situation re: Therapy (TW: Abuse)

[HelpfulMonkey]

Looking for a bit of advice here on if I am being reasonable or not?
I have been given some court mandated therapy.
It's taken me a very long time to get to a stable place with my mental health.
To put things pretty briefly, I was abused very badly as a child, sexually and physically by multiple people. I have had serious problems with substances since then which I am now over, I am a carer for one terminally ill parent and another has just passed unexpectedly.
At the moment I am doing well, positive and making the best of life.

I am currently having to see a state trainee therapist once a week, who whilst being 'nice' is completely useless.
I have been through rehab and have seen 10+ different therapists over the years as well as doing everything under the sun from exercise and diet to Ayahuasca, psilocybin, SSRIs, old style (Lithium etc), basically all I can to get a decent quality of life.

So my problem is I have to see this person once a week who is literally just working through a basic CBT textbook and as no idea what they are doing.
They keep pushing me to talk about childhood sexual abuse but they obviously have no idea how to deal with this and it is very difficult for me to go through these things again with someone who obviously doesn't know what they are doing.

AIBU to try and get out of this situation and how can I?
I feel I am now being abused by the state and there is no way of getting out of this situation without making it worse for myself.

How they you be ordered to see her? Is it part of a condition of staying out of prison?

Firstly kudos to you, you've been through hell and sound like an absolutely brilliant person. Secondly I'd go above their head and politely complain and then hopefully be swapped to someone else.

Explain the situation to whoever, as you appear to be doing everything you can to get on with your life & as best as you can under the circumstances. Say you’d prefer to have therapy with someone else as it’s not working out with this person. Good Luck!

Ok no advice but just wanted to tell you I’ve been in similar situation - ended up having a car accident on a way back from a therapy session. I hope you’ll be able to access proper qualified help

Ask for someone else as you don't feel safe

Therapy is unlikely to work if you've been "ordered" to do it, there will be sorts going on. Why have you been ordered,?

Do you have a case worker you could discuss this with?
In your situation I would write down what your concerns are in a really reflective way to get four thoughts together.

I would then contact whoever is in charge of arranging this and talk to them about it. Be open and make clear that you're more than happy to engage with therapy that is appropriate and meaningful but that you feel that this is not meeting your needs.

YADNBU to try and get out of that situation. No therapist should be pressuring you to talk about abuse when you don't feel safe doing so. I imagine since this person is useless you're never going to get to the stage of feeling safe. I would try to get out of it wither having no therapy or requesting someone else and if you can't I'd absolutely refuse to discuss any of my history with them. Perhaps use the session to do something that is harmless or even relaxing but doesn't require a skilled therapist (meditation?). They must be closely supervised so I would tell the therapist explicitly what you've said here (obviously ommitting the word useless) and see if you can redirect things.

Just digesting the replies on here so far but I would like to quickly say thank you and I am very appreciative of people taking the time to give advice.
It's tricky dealing with the state and possible consequences when I have people replying on me.

Are you in the UK, OP? This is a fairly new practice in the UK but the therapists are, I believe, still under the remit of the NHS and you may be able to make a complaint about your therapist. Have you voiced your concern to your therapist that you don’t think they are experienced/qualified enough to safely help you with these issues?

Just tell your therapist you don’t want to talk about historic sex abuse, the court might mandate therapy but they can’t determine how you use that time and space. Historic abuse isn’t something to try and unpick with a student and not where you have a limited number of sessions. Have a think about what you want to get from the time you have in therapy (given your have no choice but to go) and tell her what your goals are, but leave anything you don’t want to talk about at the door.

Can you have a practised phrase like, "I don't yet feel safe enough to discuss that".

Is there a previous therapist you are in touch with who could advise how to proceed?

Could you try a helpline for advice on how to negotiate an inappropriate therapist?

Without knowing the exact situation you are in, I don't think we can tell you exactly who to go to to make changes.
Are you in theUK?