kissing baby?

[trinityj]

My Ds is almost 1, turning this month. Yesterday I noticed my MIL giving him multiple kisses on his mouth, about 9/10 repeatedly, whilst saying goodbye to him. DH didn't see, so didn't say anything.

Would it be wrong of me to ask him to have a word with her regarding this? Would you be ok with grandparents kissing your children? Wanted a second opinion before telling him/not telling him.

thank you x

Personally I’d be ok with it at that age. Maybe not before 6 months old. But your baby, your rules so if you don’t feel ok with it then go for it

I would never have let anyone kiss my children on the mouth. Plenty of people will probably reply and say it’s harmless, but I find it revolting. I’d tell her not to. In our family children were kissed only on the cheek.

I don't think it would be wrong if you at all!

One of my close friends was actually in hospital with her 2 year old a few weeks ago, due to a family member kissing her little one on the mouth, said family member gets cold sores on and off, and passed the cold sore virus onto the little one,

Her mouth ended up covered in them/blisters and it was almost impossible to get her temperature and stuff down. Very upsetting to see.

I have a no mouth kissing rule with my young kids & my partner even follows it as he's had cold sores in the past. X

When I first started asking people not to do it I felt a bit awkward but I don't now lol. I'll tell anybody, if I get the whole 'it's harmless' comment, I just say 'harmless to you yes, but if they catch anything I'll be ringing you to take us to hospital and you can stay with us and witness it all if you like??' And they don't make that comment again 🙈

Yuck. Absolutely not ok. I don’t even kiss my own kids on the mouth and I’ve never had cold sores!

I dont see an issue with it?

My DD (2) loves kisses on the mouth from close family, dont understand the issue personally.

Obvs if they have coldsores then thats surely common knowledge that they dont do it, im the only one that actually gets coldsores so again another non issue.

I personally don't mind but it's each to their own and I don't think YWBU to ask.

I'm in my 70's and was brought up knowing that most people have herpes simplex and can pass that onto a child
You cuddle them and kiss them on the top of their head. It's the same principle as not knowing about infection control, failing to wash your hands after gong to the toilet, so close to the regulations following the pandemic you'd expect people to have more common sense etc.

Urghh I wouldn't want anyone passing on cold sores to my lovely baby

Hi @trinityj i totally hear you, i don't like my MIL doing it either.
I really try not to say anything, i'm trying to find a moment to tell her nicely 😏

Obvs not if anyone has cold sores but we're mouth kissers. She just kind of goes for the mouth anyway, so with my mum, mil, us, it's normal. My niece who is a month younger (on dh's side) is also a mouth kisser. My nephew was when little.

Never thought anything of it! I'll be pretty sad when she grows out of it.

Absolutely not. A kiss on the head or cheek yes. Lips no. Just no.