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WIBU to move closer to home now?

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Movingagainagain · 08/01/2023 20:15

Sorry this is longer than I wanted it to be!

I’m from the Highlands but living in Glasgow after 5 years in London. I bought a lovely flat here 6 months ago. My intention when I moved up 18 months ago was to stay here for 10 years or so then move to the Highlands (just not many places for brunch up there!!).

I have spent a lot of time at home lately because my mum was diagnosed with cancer in August 2022. Although it is being treated, it is more than likely to come back and statistically, she doesn’t have 5 years (although I obviously hope she does!!). There were a few things she said over Christmas that really brought this home to me and I’ve cried A LOT in the last few weeks. I would want to move home if she wasn’t well again, so it’s likely I would end up moving home in few years - could be one year, could be 5 years, nobody knows.

I am not happy in my current job and was looking for a new job in Glasgow. But in light of mums illness and not knowing what the next few years will bring, I’m now thinking I might as well move home to the highlands now.. WIBU to move again in anticipation of something that may never happen?

What’s holding my back is I really love my little flat in Glasgow. I did pay over the odds for it and I don’t think I’d get all of my money back if I sold now, but it would rent easily and would ‘wash its face’ for a couple of years until the market (hopefully!) picks up again. I would be able to keep it and buy a place at home, I wouldn’t have much left in the bank, but that’s ok. The job prospects at home are not so great, but over the last few years I have become much less career minded anyway.

I’m so torn on what to do 😩 any advice welcome! X

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Timeforachangeisitnot · 08/01/2023 20:26

What a tough position to be in. Sorry about your mum’s cancer.

How old are you? Do you have a good circle of friends where you are? What about back home? Are there people with whom you have something in common?
Can you commute at weekends? Does your job let you work remotely, with possibly a new company ?

I am throwing questions at you more as things to think about.

We did move home, to NE Scotland , at 50 years old, to be with family, young and old. Parents have passed and I am not sure it was the right thing for us. I long for aspects of my old life and my old friends, but realistically it’s too late for us.
So think about your life too, I guess.

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