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Unwanted birthday gift

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helenro · 08/01/2023 15:12

It's my birthday soon and my daughter informed me that my husband had bought me a new phone. She'd already told him I would not want a new phone as the one I've got is only 6 months old and there's nothing wrong with it. Relations between my husband and daughter are not great (but that's not the point to this discussion) and he's effectively ignored her comment and instructed her to find a case for this phone. She only came to me about this as she was worried about my reaction as she knew I didn't want or need a new phone. It's a really expensive one as well and OH is absolutely terrible with money. I am at my wits end as to what to do. I really do not want this but somehow I know this will be all my fault and I'll get it in the neck for being ungrateful and daughter too for telling me. A previously acquired unwanted present for my birthday years ago caused months of quarrels so you can understand my concerns. What do I do?

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Riverlee · 08/01/2023 15:16

Accept it graciously, and either use it or put it in a drawer safe and sound.

Aquamarine1029 · 08/01/2023 15:19

A previously acquired unwanted present for my birthday years ago caused months of quarrels so you can understand my concerns. What do I do?

Divorce this abusive arsehole, that's what you do.

LaurieFairyCake · 08/01/2023 15:20

Accept it, sell it

Pay off the credit card or debt associated with it OR if there's none buy something you actually want

Anisina · 08/01/2023 15:23

Keep it and sell and sell your old one?

Duchess379 · 08/01/2023 15:31

As others have said, accept it, smile sweetly & send it back. Happy birthday btw x

Maray1967 · 08/01/2023 15:31

Why has he bought it if you have only recently got one? If he genuinely thinks it’s a good present eg the one you’ve just got is a very basic phone, then could you not just tell him you don’t like that model? If you think it’s because he wants to look like the big DH buying his wife a pricey gift and you know he isn’t actually bothered about you at all, you’ve got more serious problems. Is he expecting your daughter to buy you the case as her present to you? If so, advise her to ignore and buy what she wants, and keep her out of it. When you unwrap the unwanted phone, don’t show that you already knew.

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