Isn't this so frustrating ??
MIL was asking about my return to work the other day after baby and I said I'll be going back soon and see how I get on with things, as do to whether I'll continue my job in exactly the same way OR perhaps find something different - have some more time out etc.
I have an extremely high pressured job. So does my husband. He works away a lot, so the running of the household and basically all childcare or picking up collecting the kids from nursery, is entirely my responsibility. I'm finding it a lot and I'm still on maternity leave..
My husband is maybe here one day a week at most and sometimes away for a week or so at a time for work. I eat dinner alone with my babies every night, get them up and ready alone etc. I'm not trying to get the violins out, but it's a lot.
Money is not tight for us. We are both well paid, so at least there is that.
In any case, I'm going to give going back to work a shot in the same set up as previously, but I already found it very difficult when I just had one child. Now I have two. Ideally it will all work out, but it's a lot on me and I'm not going to kill myself too chase the huge salary. Perhaps a less high profile role which is a bit worse paid, may work better. But I'm definitely determined to give it a go, to try and make things work the way they did before.
I have a cleaner once a week and outsource things like ironing of my husband's shirts. Everything else, I do. Anyway, again, not wanting to sound the violin...
It was just a casual chat anyway. A bit unnecessary if you ask me. But I said that yeah I'll be looking to go back soon and hope I get on OK, as it's a lot for me.
MIL goes, I've been there. It was so extremely tough for me.. I went back to work as soon as I had my babies and I did it all. I had no maternity leave and no one ever helped me. I also didn't have a cleaner or anyone to help with laundry etc and no help from a nanny and my kids didn't go to nursery until they were much older and I still managed everything all on my own and worked full time....
it's actually factually untrue and also impossible... she did not work full time like I will for example. She worked very part time. How can you possibly go back to work with babies and no childcare in place ? I know for a fact it's a bare faced lie, because my husband told me.
Anyway, it's not the point.. it's just frustrating when people do this ! Why do you need to top me? Why couldn't she just say, see how you go and good luck with it. Having kids is not easy, I also really struggled to get everything done.