AIBU- child unwell

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Hi,

So last night , DD (5) was unwell in the middle of the night. She was sick in her bed , and was absolutely hysterical. She was complaining of stomach cramps and screaming because she was scared if being sick again. To be fair , it was very intense and it was like she was having a panic attack over being sick !

Anyway, this then woke DD(1) up , who is also unwell and started to then cry loudly. Me and DH agreed I would tend to baby and he would sort DD(5) and the sick on the bed.

After a few minutes of chaos and screaming from DD5 and shouting from DH, I asked to swap. At this point DD in the bathroom was so upset and trying to get fresh pj's on. She wouldn't listen to what her dad was saying and he just went mad and took her to her room half dressed and said be sick on your own, I don't care. He was also shouting at her for being naughty and screaming , but I mean he was shouting at her so loudly it was horrible.

Anyway , we get sorted but think her attress is ruined ( mattress protector wasn't on ) so she had to sleep in my bed. DH suggested that both children sleep in with me and he sleeps downstairs
I said no I'm not having 2 sick Children in with me on my own All night , I'll have DD5 and he can settle the baby back in her cot

Fast forward to this morning and he brings baby to me at 8am when she wakes saying can you have her because I've been up with her all night ( has hasn't because I would have heard ) I had cuddles with the DC until about 840 then got up. DH announced he was going back to bed.
I said OK but ( I was going to say but don't forget we need to sort the mattress out and take Xmas tree down as well as some other bits we had agreed to do today ) he started shouting at me saying you don't but me , if I need sleep I'm going to sleep. Don't tell me what I can or can't do etc ( but really shouted )

He still in bed now ( nearly 10am ) whilst I'm trying to bath 2 sickly miserable children , get myself ready and sort the house. To top it off he's left sick covered sheets in carrier bags on the kitchen floor.

I'm fuming at him. I think he's being so selfish and his behaviour is so unattractive.
Is he being a complete arse ? Or am I just being sensitive because I'm tired and stressed ?

Next time he is ill start shouting at him.

What an arse.

He’s not only horrible to you, he’s horrible to your poor daughter who is 5 and not well. Are you going to protect them from this in future? Poor kids

Thank you I agree. I'm so close to packing his bags whilst he's in bed

Pack them: they’ll thank you for it
None of this behaviour is remotely ok

You had your answer when he was shouting at a five year old for being unwell and frightened.

Firm, to cut through her panic and control the situation, maybe - but shouting and bullying a small, frightened, sick child is awful.

That's not acceptable behaviour from any adult in that situation. He's her dad!

That would be, at minimum, a serious 'explain or you're gone' conversation here.

He is being absolutely unreasonable to shout, especially at a poorly five year old. However I wouldn't have been thinking about packing away the Christmas decorations with the night you've all had. Between you clean or bin the sheets, sort a new mattress if needed, and all try and get some rest. If he's not usually like this hopefully he'll apologise profusely. We've all said or done things we regret when sleep deprived and stressed. If he is usually like this, reconsider the relationship.