AIBU to feel sad about this?

[Blueu4]

I’m on a medication that I’ve been warned is very likely to change my eye colour. It has already started to change it slightly and it’s different to how it was say last January.

I have blue eyes and it’s something I’ve always been a bit sentimental about because it makes me feel close to my family (for a variety of complicated reasons) who had the same eyes as me, and it’s like an identity thing I suppose. According to the doc it’s irreversible so if it does continue to change then that’s it.

I know the medication is important and of course I will continue taking it but AIBU to feel a little sad about it? I know nothing will change about me realistically and it’s a tiny problem in the grand scheme of things, but I feel a bit sad that something that’s made me feel close to my family is now going to change so late in my life

Aw. I get you. I have that eatern European mixed eyes and it's very much part of me.

Maybe it will stop at the mix of brown, blue grey etc! Nut look, grieve it and don't be ashamed of it.

Some cultures believe eyes are windows into outlr souls. You are beating a deases and that may change one's soul to see things differently.

So your eyes change while you also change with the experience. Can that be comforting?

Yep totally get you. I have [family name] eyes, distinctive green with a darker ring around them and acknowledged as a strong gene from one part of my family. One of my children does too. Same eyes as my mum and granny (both dead). I'd be gutted if they changed.

I get that you are upset but the connection to your loved ones is not dependent on pigmentation.
Imagine not being able to see your loved ones at all. That's the reality for many people yet it isn't going to happen to you because you have access to this medication. Which is actually a wonderful thing when you consider those in Third World countries.
Being upset about this is a waste of energy. The alternative is to lose your sight through glaucoma so unless that is what you want, there's sweet FA you can do about eye colour.
Instead of staying upset, enjoy your eyes! Read books, enjoy the beautiful plants and flowers around us, go to a gallery and look at the art, make the most of doing all the things you wouldn't be able to fully appreciate without the gift of sight.

I have very unusual eye colour and would be gutted as it is (shalowly) a part of my looks and identity and I emphasise it a lot while doing makeup etc... But yeah, health much more important than this.

My whole family on both sides are blue eyed, from blue eyed blondes to blue eyes and black hair (Irish side). DH has hazel eyes and all the DC have his eye colour. I'm so sad over the eye colour, no matter how silly it is.