Ok so me & my partner don't live together as It's been an on off relationship due to his mental health issues & difficulties he has. At the moment we are very much on, have been getting on really well, laughing, joking, spending time together etc.
However, I've noticed in the past few weeks a couple of things.
First is when he isn't with me, he will text a lot and if I don't reply he will call. Last night I stopped answering the phone after the 5th time. We had said goodnight already & I just wanted to enjoy my evening, I told him he's interrupting 'me time' & it's overstepping my boundary.
Secondly, the sex. It's good, it's actually amazing, but my problem is he expects it as soon as he walks through the door. Literally within seconds of being in my flat he's trying to rip my clothes off. It's flattering in its way but when I say 'no' he will keep trying to 'turn me on' and kind of pestering me.
He will literally be all over me trying to feel me up, kissing me etc. when I eventually give in he sort of just pulls back a bit and chills, I don't get as much attention, the cuddles and kisses have reduced to nil (maybe that's just my paranoia)
Thing is, when I know he's coming over I kind of think I really want to see him but don't want to have sex within the first 5 minutes? Especially if I'm tired after a long day. It's almost like he won't just chill with me and watch a film until we've had sex, and he won't leave me alone until I give in. It fucks me off sometimes.
I've spoken to him about it but he isn't getting it. I've told him I feel pressured every time he comes over (which isn't that often as we both have busy lives) and it isn't the first thing on my mind.