DH helps his family more than me!

[Fam89]

So this has been on my mind for a few months now but has been happening for a lot longer. My DH is always ready to drop what he's doing to help his family, he could be working, day off etc. Doesnt matter. But 70% of the time won't do the same for me.

DH works from home.

I'm pregnant, 31 weeks and sometimes I'm not feeling well enough to even do the school run (we have to drive 5 mins then walk 10 mins) But he mostly always seems to have a zoom meeting and can't help me.

Well yesterday he says he'll pick up his family members from the airport almost 3 hours away (whilst supposed to be working) in the evening I test positive for covid, I'm exhausted, coughing, body feels HEAVY and my brain is in a fog and DH says "I can't pick up the kids today, I've got a meeting"

AIBU to be pissed that he can't take less than half an hour to pick the kids up from school?? I have spoken to him about this a few times now and he'll recall the 30% of times he's helped. Everytime he asks me to help him out i will.
Also it's a job that he's leaving so it's not like he's trying to make a good impression

Who schedules these Zoom meetings? Can you ask him to refrain from scheduling meetings at pick up time? I suppose it depends on the flexibility of his job. Most jobs don’t have much flexibility around meetings.

However, it’s clear that you feel unsupported which is really crap when you’re pregnant and unwell. Your DH needs to step up and prioritise your needs.

He sounds like an idiot. His new family (you and the children) should come first and he certainly should help out more. I can understand it must be annoying if he's dropping everything for them at the click of their fingers and won't often do the same when you ask, even if it's to collect his own children from school.

My job's very flexible, but if I've got a meeting that's that. So I can quite imagine saying yes to three hours one day and no to something clashing with a meeting the next.

If he has any say in the meetings, then it would be well worth asking if he can keep school run times meeting-free for the next few months, as that's when you're most likely to need help.

He likes looking the good guy to his friends and family.

I agree with @lanthanum in that in my job there are days when I could do a 3 hour pick up but other days I couldn’t do 30 minutes. No way for us to know if that is the situation here or not. There is likely more he could do, like others said try his best to keep his diary free from 3-4 everyday (or whatever).

My ex was like this. Loved being the fantastic helpful good guy in public meanwhile I dealt with all the shite at home.