AIBU to ask which parent was being unreasonable?

30 replies

Zoeyclash · 05/01/2023 23:00

This is the scenario..... Parent A was preparing dinner for the family (homemade pizza with various toppings which everyone likes.) Thirteen-year-old son enters the kitchen and complains that he doesn't want pizza, he wants something else instead. Parent A explains that pizza is that evening's dinner for everyone and no, he can't have something different instead. (He likes this pizza, so it's not an issue with having to eat a dinner he doesn't like.) Parent B enters the room and hears the tail end of the conversation. Parent B says to son that he doesn't have to eat the pizza if he doesn't want and he can get something else instead.
Which parent do you think was unreasonable?
YA NOT BU - Parent A
YABU - Parent B

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Letitrainletitrainletitrain · 05/01/2023 23:30

SadButTheTruth · 05/01/2023 23:26

What’s going on with voting?? Everyone is saying Parent B is unreasonable but the voting seems skewed the other way…?

The voting is confusing and with the question before it could be read in two opposing ways

Whowhatwherewhenwhynow · 05/01/2023 23:32

mynameislaetitia · 05/01/2023 23:11

Parent B is unreasonable for undermining parent A. But equally as parent A I wouldn't have minded DC eating a sandwich or whatever if they didn't want the pizza.

^This

saraclara · 05/01/2023 23:45

it obviously depends what “tail end of the conversation” was heard. If they heard that the 13yo was unhappy with the food on offer but didn’t hear that Parent A said they had to have the pizza then they aren’t at all unreasonable to say the 13yo can make themselves something else.

That's what I was about to respond with. OP, you haven't made it clear what parent B heard and what they didn't.

JemimaTiggywinkles · 06/01/2023 00:20

I think it depends on what the other food on offer was. If it meant ransacking the cupboards and making family meals hard to make for the next few days then parent B was unreasonable. If it meant the child making some cereal (with plenty of cereal/milk left for others) then I think parent A was unreasonable.

When I was growing up there wasn't such a thing as spare food. We ate what we were given because that's all there was. I don't resent it and I'm grateful to my parents for doing their best. But to be forced to eat food you didn't want out of principle would rankle.

Naddd · 06/01/2023 00:25

Parent b

I make one meal n if you eat it you eat if you don't dort yourselves out. However i do wonder if im harsh ive heard parents basically say they make 2 or more different meals is this normal? am i unreasonable?

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