Rude sister and her precious dog

[emzzx]

I went round to my grandmothers place for some tea tonight and to see my sister & her partner, I haven’t seen them all Christmas as they are London way. They take their rescue Greyhound dog everywhere with them, and so much of the conversation is based on their precious pet and his walks. I get it, I am a dog lover and love my dog but she lets this dog jump and lie everywhere! I am boundaried with my dog and make sure she gets off furniture and doesn’t get in way. My sister is adamant she wants to be child free forever, hates kids and her dog is like her baby. Whereas, I’m the opposite to her, I’m 7 months pregnant and I do love my dog but I think they should know their place..

So to the point, AIBU…her dog was laid sprawled across my grandmothers sofa, there was no other seating available, my husband went to shift the dog over and sit.. the dog barked and growled. Got over it. Then my grandma came to sit down on her own sofa, just perched on the armchair part, and the dog growled and snapped at her, so intensely that my grandma screamed and she fell to the floor. I lost it, I shouted ‘right, the dog needs to be on his dog bed, this isn’t your house, it’s made grandma fall over and this isn’t right!’ My sister came back with ‘I warned you all to leave him on the sofa by himself, he’s allowed to have his space, he doesn’t have to sit on his own bed!’ She then screamed insults at me along lines of ‘that my dog was naughty too, that because I’m pregnant I’m not special, I could still give up my seat for grandma to sit’ she was so mad and her comments made me feel more annoyed..and her partner was saying something like ‘he can stay on the sofa all he likes.. that my grandma shouldn’t sit on her own sofa?! Wtf.

ugh it just wound me up so much, people shouldn’t allow their dogs to dominate their lives and environments. I’m so worried when my baby comes about my baby being snapped at. They take the dog everywhere and treat it like a prince!! Her comments were unnecessary. I’m so annoyed that they never even apologised to my grandma or my husband or rectified their dogs behaviour. My grandma struggled to get up off the floor, and they just watched and made sure their dog was ok instead.

they are here for the weekend and I can’t be bothered with anymore conversations with them. I didn’t like her pregnancy comments and it came across as bitter tbh, just for pointing out her dog should be on a dog bed.

My husband and I would have thrown them out the front door with their dog.

I cannot believe some people have voted YABU!!

As if your partner and Grandma, in her OWN HOUSE, should give up the sofa for a visiting dog!!

It's 100% batshit!

Why did the dog need checking up on, especially when your Gran was in the floor?!

ASBO dog, he's a twat and would be getting arsed outside !

Mine wouldn’t dream of objecting to being moved. Bloody ill-mannered. Your poor grandma. 😢

unfortunately Your sister and her partner are cunts.
for the safety of your baby I think your relationship needs to be over.

I 100% agree, luckily they live away and see them about twice a year!

The dog is what its ow

The dog is what his owners have made him.

YABU, for not being capable of asking your DSis (nicely) to remove the dog from the human seating area . If she’d then replied that the dog is allowed to lie on the furniture, you should have calmly added that while it might be ok when she’s in her own home, it isn’t when she’s visiting, and the humans cannot sit down.
Starting an argument before giving her a chance to resolve the issue (and your DH attempting to physically move the dog) were both the wrong way of resolving the issue.

The dog is resource guarding. This needs to be dealt with, probably with help from a behaviourist, before it escalates to biting.

To be fair, a "snap" is not the same as an "attempted bite" - snapping at the air is one step on the escalation ladder with a bite at the end of it; a greyhound is easily fast enough to be able to bite before a human can get out of the way, should it want to. The dog was just warning your husband and grandmother in the strongest possible manner.

With that said, your sister clearly has no knowledge of training dogs to be sociable, and needs some training herself. For the first time in a dog-related thread, I'm gonna say...YANBU, and I say that as someone whose dogs are among the top priorities in my life.

100%. Its ridiculous thinking a dog has more 'right' to a sofa than a person and if my dog growled she'd be told off too.

However, my dog can very, very occasionally be snappy if she is pulled by her collar so if that's what the person did then maybe that didn't help but no excuse to snap at Grandma.

Were you all sat on the floor and the dog on the sofa?

The sister has eyes in her head. Grandma wants to sit down on her own sofa, the sister should move the dog. The grandmother fell. I would have shouted too, OP.

Oh no your sister sounds like she’s morphed into a “boring dog person” they sure are on the rise.

I have a dog and she’s loved but she is… a dog. I also have kids too. This dog sounds horrific and bad mannered. Probably a good job you don’t see your sister too often now the conversation will be highly dull no doubt.

my dog my dog my dog. Yawn.

mine sit on our sofa but I would certainly ask before letting them on someone else’s furniture and they get turfed off if someone wants to sit down the same way kids are expected to give up their seats for adults .

@emzzx I absolutely agree, if the dog is barking and growling it absolutely should not be on the sofa.
My son sat on thr sofa at our own house and a friend’s dog growled at him- Son made dog get off sofa, and this greyhound x bit him.

This same dog went for my well behaved Whippet.
It’s clearly a spoiled dog.
As is my friends’ dog.

We didn’t touch the dog or attempt to physically remove, it’s as you go down to sit near it snapped and growled. No touching at all.

I don't disagree.

But, grandma had just seen the dog growl and snap at another adult for sitting down near the dog, and then proceeded to do the same thing herself. That's not exactly smart behaviour around an animal.

Of course grandma should be able to sit wherever and of course the sister should have moved the dog, but in that situation, you stand and wait for the dog to get moved, you don't plonk yourself down anyway!

She perched on the tiniest bit of armchair part of the sofa, she was not sitting on top of the dog and plonking herself next to it. They shouldn’t told the dog Off, but they felt he should be entitled to take over someone else’s space.

They should of told the dog to get off *

Gosh that’s awful, nightmare dog! Yes he is deffo a spoiled dog!

@emzzx like I said, I don't disagree.

But going to sit in the space of a dog who has just shown that it resource guards is a daft move. She's so lucky she didn't get bitten.

It's all very well saying the dog can sit where it likes, but not in someone else's house it can't!

I wouldn't allow her to bring her dog to mine if I had a baby and I wouldn't visit anywhere where the dog would be. Her failure to train it, makes it a liability. Not the dog's fault obviously, but it's still a danger.
Your sister is a twat!

YANBU. The risk of a bite from a do that shows aggression and is not stopped is too high for it to be around a baby or young child. Please do not let the dog and the baby be in the same place, ever. Not worth a bite.