AIBU to stop trying and accept myself as I am?

[totallybonafido]

I'm 5'2, 9st 12, size 10/12. Not massive but extra weight really shows because of my height and size 12 is on the large side for someone so short. I always have a battle with my weight, I had lost half a stone before Christmas but now back where I started. I have spent the past 10 years or so yoyoing between 8st 5 and 11 st. Most recently I had gone back to the 5:2 and it was working, albeit very slowly and not like it used to. Whenever I do lose weight I find it very hard to maintain. Even when I do get to a weight that I'm happy with, I don't look how I want to look and don't like how I look in clothes. AIBU to stop trying and accept that I am naturally a bit chubby and nobody cares what I look like apart from me? I spend far too much time worrying what I look like to other people 🙁

YANBU. Life is too short and you sound fairly healthy for your height. The fact that you keep yo yoing suggests that the lower weight isn’t one your body is comfortable at.

Yes, accept it.
I'm half a stone heavier and similar height and I love my body. It works, it's alive, it carried children. I do aerobics twice a week, I eat what makes me happy, I don't overthink it. I have a freedom I never had when I was calorie counting all the time.

Embrace your body. Your weight won't be affecting your health at this level.

Just focus on eating healthily. Get your 5 a day and drink plenty of water. Yoyoing is so bad for you in many ways both physically and mentally.

As long as you do regular exercise, and your weight is 31 inches or less, you literally have nothing to worry about from a health perspective. And how you look is for you alone to decide! So you would not be being unreasonable!

If you were to stop putting weight on, this won’t be much of an issue. But as I know from experience and from looking at everyone around me, ppl who are struggling with weight don’t stop putting weight on when they stop trying to lose it. They continue to put on, some slower some faster. So years from now you’ll probably have to contend with more and more weight.

I know what I’m taking about as I got from slim to regular overweight (that I was fine with) to now officially obese. Weight creeps on slowly but steadily.

and that’s bc I have the same bad habits as always. It was not affecting me in my 20s, it is affecting me now in my 40s. Bad knees, high cholesterol, increased heart beat, struggling going up and down the stairs. I had none of this issues when I was just overweight.

the diet mindset is a mindset set for failure. I know o don’t need a diet, I don’t need to struggle to lose weight. Been there, done that. Eventually I will fail.

I know what my bad habits are. I don’t eat fast food, I eat small portions of food (feel full quickly) but I binge on sweets. I also used to run but have stopped years ago, so in my case I just need to put the weight off my mind but drop the bad habits and start running. It will take a long time but I didn’t get here overnight either.

btw I’m truly a coach potato so when I said I used to run, to start with it was walk/jog to start with (jog for 10 seconds, walk till heartbeat back to normal) for 5-10mminutes. But 3 times a week. Went from excruciating pain and stiffness to 10k in one year.

im pregnant now but once I deliver and I’m past the first baby months, I’ll go back to it. I’m mindful of sweets now too, as I don’t want gtt.

hope this helps, as a perspective from someone similar to you.

I'm half a stone heavier than I would like to be but it takes massive effort and barely esting to achieve my target weight.
So I've kinda given up and accepted that I'll just be me, I'll try to exercise when I can and not go mad on junk food. But that's it.