not to celebrate my own birthday?

[poppyrus]

I get birthday blues every year. This year is a milestone birthday. Had taken the time off work forever ago. Made no plans. Family scattered around the country and abroad. Handful of friends also scattered around the place, busy with DC etc. We have no DC. DH is.... nice but hopeless. A recent anniversary trip was a disaster. Wow my life is shit.

Any ideas for how to spend the day?

The question in your title is different to the one in your post. Do you WANT to celebrate it or not?

I just want it gone to be honest. I'd rather just not have a birthday if that was possible. That day will come round though and I'm wondering how best to spend those 24 hrs if that makes sense?

What do you like doing? I love a free day, on my own, exploring a new town, visiting a gallery or museum and a nice lunch out. I don't need other people to share it with me ... I am perfectly happy in my own company. Prefer it actually! Would that work for you?

@Ragwort Thank you. I think I could do that on "just another day". Not sure I'd be able to on my birthday if you see what I mean, I think going out for a birthday lunch alone would remind me just how shit my life is.

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My friend who doesn’t celebrate their birthday just treats it like any other day - work, normal routine etc. Do you need to do something different?

So don't do anything. I never celebrate my birthday, because it's just another normal day. Just ignore it & crack on. This is all entirely up to you to choose.

Book a hotel an hour away for the night and sign up to Tinder, have yourself a fun evening.

What about a lovely relaxing spa day

Spend the day thinking about what you really want from your life and what you would need to do to get it. Make notes and start doing research: for example, do you want to change your job and what else could you do? Do you want to work on your relationship with your husband or is it beyond repair? If the latter, book an appointment with a lawyer.

My Birthday is New Years Eve and I' don't even acknowledge it now
I treat it the same as any other day

Rather than celebrating the actual day could you do something special for the milestone at a convenient time such as a slightly better than usual outing or holiday at the same time you might normally do this but an upgrade in quality.