I’m envious of people with good health

[Secretstuf]

I know it’s not right and I need to stop
but how ?

I know what you mean; but I think, even worse, is when people with good health don't appreciate how fortunate they are - and judge you for struggling with things that they can manage perfectly well, assuming that you are lazy or just not bothering to try.

This starts at an early age, where schools give awards and prizes to the children at the end of the year who are able-bodied and also enjoy good health, which allows them to not need to miss any days off school.

It's the double-whammy: having to live your everyday life with much compromised health and/or disabilities and also being criticised and blamed for it by the lucky ones who cannot/will not understand that other people don't have things as easy as they do.

Sorry, that wasn't an attempt to instantly derail your opening topic, but I think it's a large part of the problem that makes things even worse for those of us with poor health and being blamed for it.

I have a condition which makes certain things very difficult and painful - such everyday tasks that most people don't even think for a moment before doing. It's quite normal for many folk to envy elite Olympic athletes or Hollywood film stars; but it really does get you down when you're envying people who can run upstairs without needing to stop halfway for a rest or put on a pair of socks without pain.

There is always someone worse off, just appreciate what you have got

OP if you struggle with your own health, YANBU to be jealous of those who dont.

However, there's a great saying that I try to remind myself of whenever I find myself comparing with others..."water your own grass".
That is, the "grass looks greener" when we look at the outsides of other peoples lives, but there are always things to be grateful for in our own lives. But it is so easy to be diverted to look at what we dont have.

Some of the most gracious and happy people I know, have children with complex disabilities or live with chronic pain themselves.

If you're asking how?- there is no easy answer.
Personally, I keep a gratitude journal, I write thank you notes to important people who help me. I remind myself not to compare my insides with other peoples outsides.

OP it's an understandable emotion and a good reminder to those of us lucky enough to be in good health, what it means not to have it. It's easy to take it for granted.
I often think about my lovely dad who had already died of cancer by my age. Why aren't I making the most of every second?