To expect DSD to pick things up

[sunshinesallday]

(semi light hearted but if I'm honest, I struggle with this...)
DSD (18) has been here for a week. She's left her room in a mess. It isn't a terrible mess, but messier than I would like. Wet towels on floor in bedroom, hairbands, packets of paracetamol, socks etc, razor on floor in bathroom and used cotton pads on side of sink. The cleaner is coming and so I've picked up everything from her bedroom floor and shoved it in a cupboard as I don't expect the cleaner to deal with that. However, I do not expect to have to pick up her razor from bathroom floor or chuck away her used cotton pads, nor do I expect the cleaner to do this. (bathroom is shared with her sibling not with us).

AIBU? Is this the sort of thing teenagers do and cleaners don't mind picking up? I wouldn't ever expect someone to pick up those sorts of things for me.

AIBU yes = it's fine for the cleaner to do those sort of things

no = DSD should be doing this and not leaving for anybody.

I'm tempted to not let the cleaner in and have it a mess when she comes back next weekend but tbh she wouldn't care because the mess doesn't bother her and I would be more bothered as it would stay messy all week, and it would make more of a problem as her dad would be upset with me for not just letting the cleaner do it.

I know this is a little petty, but I've had a v quiet week and clearly have no other major worries atm so please indulge me ;)

One of my dds is like this, mess really doesn't bother her.

I don't enter teenagers bedrooms, if they want to live in a pig sty, let em, and if I had a cleaner and would say the room only gets cleaned if kid bothers to sort it first

What does her dad think about her leaving a bathroom like that? Tbh I think 18 is a bit late to be trying to tackle this sort of gross lazy and selfish behaviour but it’s still worth trying. You might not use that room but it is under the roof you live in and presumably pay for and you have every right to expect it be looked after and not treated like a shit tip.

Perhaps you having a cleaner has taught her that other people will clean up after her?

I just wouldn't go in there! Up to you whether you ask cleaner to sort it or leave DSD to do it herself when she cuts her feet or whatever..

Cleaners are there to clean not tidy up. I would tell the cleaner to not do those rooms and let her live in her own filth.

When my dcs were teens, we expected communal areas to be left tidy. They were responsible for cleaning their own rooms.

Doors were shut on the mess. Eventually, they did it because it annoyed them.

If Communal rooms, like shared bathrooms, were messy, there would be consequences. It worked for us.

I tell my cleaner not to do any of the kids rooms if they leave shit on the floor.

I'd tell the cleaner not to bother.

Leave the bedroom to her if she is there frequently and no-one else shares it - tell the cleaner not to bother. Maybe insist she clears any cups etc on leaving.
Used razors in the bathroom - hardly fair on sibling (how old is sibling?) - tell (or get her DF to)her to clear up her crap in communal spaces.

thank you all - just to clarify, my kids would never do that and are erring on the side of 'too tidy' if there is such a thing so I wasn't sure if I was being unreasonable. I've never expected a cleaner to do that, but I think her DM has a cleaner who does pick up everything after them so she has just got used to it.

I'm at least feeling reassured that if I just close the door till the next time she comes I'm not being unreasonable or expecting too much. I wasn't sure if I was making a fuss over what isn't really a terrible mess but is just more mess than I am happy about.

I don’t think that’s a fair or likely true assessment.

Cleaners generally clean a tidy house once/twice a week.