I’m feeling really down and was hoping I could post on here for some support and advice. I have my issues with DH he is cold, unloving and just not bothered. I do want to leave him but we’ve just purchased a new home that we haven’t even moved into so my plans are on hold at the moment.
sorry to derail but it’s about my Inlaws. I’ve been married 12 years ago and was constantly told their behaviour especially SIL was “perfectly normal”, tbh I was so young when I got married I just accepted it and on the odd occasions I brought it up I would be shut down by a screaming MIL. DH is the youngest and has 2 older sisters. Age gap is like 10 and 8 years.
They’ve never bothered with me. My first Christmas as a married couple was just ignored, my eldest child’s first Christmas was ignored. When I invited them over to our home for my child’s first Christmas (we lived with Inlaws) I was met with “why would we want to do that?”, and “I don’t consider you as my family”. We’re Indians so this made no sense as they put a show in the world that were all so close.
when I told MIL I was upset they didn’t come for Xmas I was met with excuses all putting them in good light and me in bad.
I can deal with this as I have lots of siblings but what pisses me off is that it’s always “tit for tat” in his family, we moved out after a year with Inlaws but every time I have an event MIL gets upset her daughters aren’t there but my sisters are! Well her daughters never want to come! DH has already told me his sisters have to come and see the new house before I invite my sisters, we’ll we’ll be waiting years then. He gets jealous of my sisters like we call each other constantly and they want to FaceTime our kids whereas our kids have no idea who his sisters are. He doesn’t like that, he gets jealous of my family.
he forced them to attend our eldest son 4th birthday and they sat there with faces like thunder and didn’t interact with anyone! Their kids sat there with their phones and didn’t utter a word whereas my sisters were chatting to people and making sure everyone had food and my nephew and nieces were interacting with all the kids.
i’m so fed up with how everything is normalised in his family and I’m always the bad one for wanting things to be normal. MIL gets upset when we visit my sisters but her daughters responses to our calls to visit
are “I will let you know”.
other extended family in Inlaws have also agreed that they’re all weird and his sisters don’t bother but MIL thinks her daughters are snacking and fault lies with me!