AIBU to expect to have had a period by now?

[Silkrose]

DD is our first and she is 16 months old. I EBF for the first six months and tailed it off to one feed before bed once she was 12 months. I stopped breastfeeding her entirely at 13 months.

I haven’t had a period at all since she was born, which is was initially very welcome. However we’re now thinking about a second and I’m really starting to get concerned. It’s been three months and zilch. I’ve done several pregnancy tests, all negative, and whilst I’m no spring chicken, I know I’m too young for the menopause.

AIBU to think there might be something wrong and I should see a doctor about this? I know it’s a bit of a first world problem but I’m nervous I won’t be able to have a second.

YABU- Be patient, enjoy your time free of Aunt Flo and don’t waste the time of the GP

YANBU- There could be something wrong…

Same happened to me. Had blood tests at the docs and discovered an underactive thyroid. Started on the thyroxine and periods came back.

It is always worth getting it checked out. Get some blood tests done to see if your hormones aren't playing up? Are you on contraception? You could ask for a referral to see gynaecologist. I was also concerned about my period after giving birth. Went to see gynaecologist privately 9 months after giving birth just to be told that I was actually ovulating and to expect my period very soon. The guy was right. I was told that it is very common for women who breastfeed a lot to get their period late. In your case, it cannot be a reason since you no longer breastfeed. I say go and see GP. Hopefully it's nothing and you're just lucky to get away with it for so long 😉.

As mentioned above could be thyroid or if your under weight that can stall your period, I'd go to gp

I don’t have any advice but just wanted to let you know you aren’t alone. My daughter is 18 months and I’ve had maybe 3 periods since she was born, even though I stopped breastfeeding at 4 months. I’m blaming it on stress, not exercising enough and being a bit overweight. I’m expecting it back soon as I’m not as stressed anymore, but it did take a year to come back after the pill so I’m happy to wait a bit longer before going to doctor.

Thank you for the responses. I’m neither over nor under weight, not particularly stressed (aside from this concern) and I am not using any contraceptive.

Part of me wonders whether I should just go back on the pill for a month to encourage my period… though not sure if it’s quite as simple and ‘quick-start’ as a car engine.

I’ll make an appointment with my GP. I just can’t find anything online quite as extreme as this, in terms of time lapsed. I really do want another baby and I don’t want to leave it too long…

I wouldn't go back on the pill unless told to by a medical professional. You won't get a genuine period on the pill so it will just be false reassurance. If you're concerned go to the GP or if you can afford to a private Gyno. I was similiar in terms of feeding although continued with the night feeding longer than you. I didn't have a period for 2.5 years and conceived DC2 almost immediately after my first period. Some bodies take longer to stabilise than others.

Thanks @FromTheFront2theBack how long was it between your last BF and your period?