To find this really odd? Insta related

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I’m in my mid 20s, was with an ex for a year. We split up in the early summer. I was really close to his family particularly his mum, she treated me like her own and I moved with him and her. My ex treated me like shit towards the end, he let me move into his family home and then kicked me out after 6 days because he wasn’t happy anymore. Pretty much lied the whole time and his mum did cry when I left.

Since then I’ve not been in contact with him, I was absolutely heartbroken and healed for ages. He’s not shown any interest in me and never views anything, doesn’t follow me etc.

His mum uses social media a fair bit, she unfollowed me back in the summer which was fair enough. But for the last month or so, she’s viewed every single story of mine without fail. Never misses one. She has two accounts, and will either view it on one or the other. She doesn’t follow me on either.
I can’t go private because I sometimes share things for my business. But I’m right in thinking it’s odd, isn’t it? She would have to search for me each time and she never misses one. It’s only a recent thing.
I’m tempted to message and ask why she keeps viewing all my things but I know I shouldn’t.
But why is it only happening now?

Can't you just block her?

She's clearly nosy but maybe doesn't know you can see her viewing your story?

She won’t search you each time, when she clicks the search button you’ll appear on the list.
my brothers ex fiancé does it to me too 😂

I don't think it's especially odd. It is a bit nosy but that's what SM is for and she probably misses you.

I find it odd you're giving it so much thought. Yes people will view things you put up for the public to see.

It's not odd at all. Everyone knows many people look up others they know on social media.

Maybe she really liked you and knows her son is an arsehole and secretly misses you and wants to see that you are doing well after he treated you so badly?

She probably just misses you. Your Ex probs convinced her to unfollow you at the time but now, down the line, she may just want to know that you're doing OK and seeing your stories may feel to her a bit like she still knows you and keeps in touch.

Could you block her 😬? Bit awks but she'd have to understand if it's making you feel bad, especially when you say it's taken you a while to heal. Maybe you could send her a message to say you find her watching your stories a bit painful and you'd rather she didn't.

Edit your settings so that her accounts are restricted or blocked.
I don't think you can exclude people from certain posts in the same way as you can on Facebook, but I am sure you can block, mute and restrict certain accounts.

Alternatively you could separate your personal and private Instagram posts by having separate accounts for each.

Goodness knows what story he told her. Other man, whatever. She may be looking for confirmation of you being the problem.

I can't believe you're giving it this much thought. Let her look, that's what it's there for. 🤷‍♀️

She would have to search for me each time
Saved search or a bookmark. No big effort required.

Probably just nosey. I have a friend that I had a minor fall out with a few years ago. We don't keep in contact anymore but when I see she's added a story I always have a look because I'm nosey & like to see what she's been up to. Surely the whole point of posting is for attention and you want people to look at your posts?.

I don't think it's that crazy, she considered you part of her family enough to let you move in and probably just cares about you. Not everything is sinister.

How do you have the time and headspace to look at who views your stories?

She’s probably just being nosy. Just block her accounts and move on.

I mean it takes seconds it’s hardly strenuous.

It’s not odd at all and doesn’t mean much, she’s just having a nose.

stop caring so much.

I'd take it as this. A continuation of the warm feelings she had towards you. Maybe she can't follow you because her dickhead son will be put out, but this is her act of defiance. She'll know you know, so this is your secret together.