My mother is an alcoholic but is in denial, she been an alcoholic since as long as I can remember. She suffers from bipolar disorder and is extremely unreasonable at the best of times. As the eldest of her 7 children I am the only one who still has contact with her. My siblings were either to young to remember her when she walked out on us or want nothing to do with her because of her behaviour over the years. I dont regularly see her but i make it a point to visit her every few months to make sure shes ok.
She is now in her 60s and lives alone, relying on my grandparents to look after her who are in their late 80s and suffering from poor health. Every time she has a problem with something she is calling them up to fix it. Sink is blocked, light needs changed, washing machine isn't working, fuse has blown etc. It's got to a point where they are unable to look after her anymore.
They recently asked me to look after her when they were gone which is such a burden I honestly don't think I can do it. I won't even give her my phone number because she calls in the middle of the night or when I'm at work shouting down the phone drunk, talking nonsense or making ridiculous demands.
Everyone has told me to cut her off and ignore her but I feel so conflicted. She needs help and I want to honour my grandparents request but I also have my own family to look after. I dont want my children anywhere near her or her turning up at my house intoxicated because shes lost her keys again but how can I just abandon this person? If i accept this burden it will be mine alone, shes burned all her bridges. If I dont look after her I dont know what will happen.
I feel so ashamed and conflicted I dont know what to do
I need some help and advice.