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To be so drained and sad with life

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RainyDaysAndGreySkies · 31/12/2022 11:15

I’m 37, going through a break up, have gone no contact with my Dad, and have 3 children, 2 teenagers diagnosed ASD/ADHD one whom also has learning disabilities and one 7 year old DD who is literally making life miserable, I hate saying that but I just feel like crying and running away every day.

From the second 7yo wakes up which can be any time from 4am-7am it’s constant demands for food, drinks, and more importantly sweets, obviously I don’t give in to the sweets but this causes tantrums and behaviour off the scale because I’ve said no. She’s constantly upsetting her sisters, she’s always stealing stuff, anything I ask her to do such as throw something away or tidy up it’s met with utter defiance, tantrums. She’s always harassing the cat. And she’s also got a lot of toileting issues im waiting to see the paediatrician about, she’s still in nappies for poo and her diet is abysmal she will only eat a limited variety of foods, very bland and wants to eat allllllll day.

I’ve tried everything, reward charts, social stories, weighted blankets, sensory lights, iPad time (this can work now and then for short bursts), stopping her from having pudding and treats, fun activities like painting and crafts, timers etc. I’m honestly at my wits end, I just want to cry every day I can’t believe this is my life, I’m miserable, I’m alone, I’ve got no support so the only respite I get is school but Christmas has obviously meant I haven’t got that support.

I don’t know what I want from this thread I’m just feeling absolutely awful and things feel hopeless I want to run away.

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HallieBo · 31/12/2022 11:20

Has the 7 year old been assessed? My friends DS ADHD/autism etc also has an issue with food. He is constantly eating, and if not eating he's talking about eating. They've done a lot of work with dieticians to help him, and it has helped a bit. She has had to come to a point where she only buys healthy snacks for everyone, no sweets, no chocolate etc etc, because he will eat everything if its in the house.

Creepinglight · 31/12/2022 11:26

I’m so sorry, that sounds so hard. I have different issues from you but know what it’s like to feel like you do.

Please know it ok to feel like you do. It’s a normal and rational response to the situation you are in. So accept yourself, and have compassion for yourself for feeling as you do.
I have found the Samaritans helpful to talk to, to just get everything off my chest.

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Merryoldgoat · 31/12/2022 11:28

Your 7yo sounds like she may also be ND.

Has she been assessed?

Cuppasoupmonster · 31/12/2022 11:51

What are your circumstances like OP? Do you work? What’s your daily routine like?

bridgetreilly · 31/12/2022 11:55

All of that sounds really, really hard to deal with on a daily basis. Definitely pursue possible diagnosis for the 7yo. But also talk to the doctor about yourself. Ask for a test for depression and see what comes out of that.

RainyDaysAndGreySkies · 31/12/2022 11:56

I think I might need to give the Samaritans a ring at some point. Assessment waiting times here are 4years and that’s even if you can get on it, im likely getting a loan to go private soon, but even then there isn’t much that can be done I guess, I’ve tried so many strategies that always worked on my other 2 but they just won’t work on her so I’m not sure what’s going on but I’m finding it hard to cope

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RainyDaysAndGreySkies · 31/12/2022 11:57

I don’t work, because my daughter with LD needs me to be around as her school hours are small, she’s 15 but more like a 8yr old really.

I’m in therapy once a week but it always seems like a long wait from one week to the next

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IdisagreeMrHochhauser · 31/12/2022 12:58

Constant hunger made me think of prada willi syndrome.

Please do call the Samaritans. It's free on 116123. They are there to help with any emotional issues that you're going through. I use them too. It's not just for imminently suicidal people.

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