To hate NYE

[Flowerfield22]

So many people posting about how amazing their years are, how much fun they've had etc

I've achieved nothing, my life is as pathetic as this time last year, still wishing I wasn't here

Just feels like a kick

What have you done this year?

I think getting through to another new year is something that is to be pretty damn proud of especially when you feel crap. I'm the same as you, and have made some goals for next year so I'm not in the same situation. Maybe worth a try?

Either way I'm spending NYE with my 3 cats too.

Therapy is how you change it.

OP I get you. I haven’t had a happy NYE in over a decade. I dread it as well. I will be spending it alone with my pups. So you are not alone in feeling this way.

I've had a shit year. And NYE is overrated.

But this thread is about you, what are you wanting to change about your life? Try and make some small steps towards it and you never know. Don't let yourself get ground down.

I hate NYE too. This year especially as we lost my father-in-law this year and MiL seems on the way out too. Once you're married and have children it seems to be too late to celebrate.

Same.

I was meant to go out tonight to celebrate but had a row with my friend and we’re not going again. I’ll be home doing nothing and in general been low for a while. I’m just hoping I fall asleep before all the celebrations kick off

yeah that's not true

Just think @indie123 you'll save a small fortune, won't need to tart up and can treat yourself in January instead!

Meanwhile I suggest Jack Ryan and a nice Merlot.

If a cat owns you,you must be a good person.l'll be in bed and asleep long before the bells, as always.Hate NY.
Start 2023 with a small change,just one! If you make loads then you are setting yourself up to fail.
I have bought a cheap water bottle and plan to drink more water as a step to being a bit healthier. Everything else can wait.

I don't think your negativity is needed the OP is feeling down, and if you want your life to change who else do you expect to do it.

Op tell us what you are wanting out of life we might be able to make suggestions.

Where are you based?

Oh op, I feel you! The highlight reels on socials would have you believe everyone is living these amazing perfect lives.
And I guess some people are! But I’ve seen 2 reels today from people who I know have had really difficult years. But in one case they’re looking on the bright side and hoping for a fresh start, in the other the person finds it very difficult to let anyone in and know that her life isn’t the picture of perfection she posts on social media. It leaves her very isolated and has compounded some of her problems sadly.

I don’t do highlight reels, I have really struggled and continue to struggle now with my mental health. I’m aware of good things in my life but I just don’t feel the need or want to post about it.

This year I survived, that’s my highlight.
I’ll be asleep at midnight as I am most nights and tomorrow is just another day x

Is there a trend this year to document everything - seen so many people today doing a breakdown of their year month by month and what they have done

Here is my breakdown of 2022

Jan - Manic at work
Feb - Illness started
Mar - Ill plus cancer scare
Apr - Tests and waiting - massive anxiety
May - Results back all clear but still anxious
June - Anxiety
July - Anxiety
Sept - Anxiety/stress
Oct - Anxiety/stress
Nov - Anxiety/stress
Dec - Anxiety and depression plus illness again

Sure there have been good parts but mainly this year has been crap.

Always find NYE a bit bleak. If I go out, there's a sense of enforced fun that I find off-putting. If I stay home, I feel like I 'should' be out enjoying myself. So I try to let it pass me by as far as possible.

I also tend to think back to the NYE I spent in a distant country, living in a city I didn't like, doing a job I didn't enjoy, having moved there for a relationship that didn't work out. That was a grim evening, but it gave me the clarity to see what needed to change and how I could start changing it. I spent NYD in an internet cafe (remember them?) carpet-bombing people with my CV and found a vacancy with a previous employer for a role I'd enjoyed in the past. By the start of March I was in a cab to the airport, waving a cheery farewell to Absurdistan and heading back to a place that I wanted to be. Change is possible, and it can be for the better.

If you're prone to either mental health struggles or negativity, I imagine all occasions are particularly hard to navigate.

Do you know what you want? What would make you happier? Can you change things about yourself / your life eg. Your job, your health/weight, your attitude?

Sorry you're feeling crap. Try to harness it to make positive changes in 2023.

How old are you OP?

I'm sorry you're feeling so down on yourself. Life isn't really about being ahead or behind. Can you stay off of social media for now?

Wow thank you everyone. I wasn't expecting to log on to such supportive replies

@Flowerfield22 honestly , there's plenty of people that would prefer to be with parents and a cat -

NYE is about looking forward to the new year, and I’m not. I don’t have any plans, prospects or opportunities ahead. Just more of the same unhappiness, and medical scans to find out whether or not I have cancer.

The only thing I currently have hope about is that it’s possible something else is causing my symptoms and it’s not cancer. Beyond that I have nothing to look forward to.

It's really great you're feeling supported, OP. I'm taking some motivation from your replies too and going to pick one small thing I can change and try to embrace the change. I'm also going to delete Twitter as it brings nothing but negativity to my life! Thankfully I don't have Instagram anyway. I'm not sure what Social media has really done for our relationships. There's lots of company here for you while you need it.

Sorry you're having such a difficult time. Would it help to change the things to look forward to, can you think of really simple things you can look forward to and enjoy in the next hour... Even if its a really nice cup of tea or hot chocolate or moisturise, when I'm unwell with MH illness I have to adjust expectations to make things enjoyable and get a sense of satisfaction in the moment. I hate this time of the year and struggle hugely holding myself together. You're not alone 💐

I dislike NYE for the same reason.

It also dawned on me today, that this time NEXT nye, it'll be "the year I turn 40".

Also, subjectively, this has been a good year, I don't feel like I've "done" as much as I have in previous years.

Just my cat saying hi to your cat.

I’m not a NY fan either.

I’ve cried too many midnights I won’t do it now so in my house nye doesn’t exist I’ve got stranger things on old year out new year in that’s my nye tradition now. I don’t drink won’t be up at midnight. Once tomorrow arrives I’ll be happy I don’t like, January but this time I’ve put dvds away for later in the month and also not coping with a grumpy husband so for me should be easer. We’ve all got your back here it’s the most over rated night of the year. Hugs you’ve done well posting how you feel OP hugs.