DH lies

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My DH lies about things he doesn’t need to lie about recent example a friend has been helping him with a project I suggested he get him a bottle of whiskey & his friends wife a bottle of wine he told me he I forgot to buy them & he will do it tomorrow I just found out he already gave them the gifts before Christmas I haven’t let on I know. I know it seems unimportant but that’s the whole point why lie about it, there’s been loads of other things like this AIBU to think I can’t actually trust him about anything.

That does seem a bit weird but its just one example, has he forgotten?

Give us other examples? Maybe theres a pattern there you're not seeing?

People who chronically lie about little things will also lie about big things.

You can't be married to someone you can't trust.

Odd thing to lie about. Confront him about it and see what he says. His reaction to being caught in a lie might tell you something.

Ok another example much bigger lie I actually thought he was having an affair because he would make an excuse about going to the dump or needing to go buy screws at same time a couple of times a week then I happened to go into the local shop with is also a bar ( live in rural France) and the owner tells me jokingly nice to see me for a change considering my DH virtually lives in there. When I asked him he said he forgot to tell me & I was making a big deal out of nothing it wasn’t just once or twice it was a couple of times a week for a month or more. I’m not the sort of person who would have an issue with him going so I don’t get why he lied about it.

This doesn't sit right with me. You suggested a gift for them. He gave them the gift but then denied it?

Really sounds like hes genuinely forgotten about it, to be honest.

A he an alcoholic?

I dont think he would forget that he had as surely telling me he’s going to buy them tomorrow would jog his memory I could understand better if it was the other way round and he’d forget to to do it & said that he had

He sounds intrinsically untrustworthy.

No he is not an alcoholic

Weird behaviour. Tell him straight that he's being odd and why can't he tell you the truth. You obviously feel its not quite right so something is off.

Zombie thread.

Wonder how it worked out for OP.

thank fuck I live alone