3 school age kids and DP doesn't work during school holidays. I have standard 25 days annual leave and all bills are split so my job is needed to pay the bills.
I work from home most of the time but in a reasonably pressured role with back to back meetings and sometimes late evenings. During the school term I do school pickups and arrange work around kids as DP work is not flexible at all and the only holidays or absence allowed is during school holidays.
I am wfh between Xmas and New year (luckier than a lot of people I know but anyways still needed to do actual work). Obv it's the holidays but DP has spent the last 3 days playing games on his console all day and ignoring the kids and letting them watch TV/play games 24/7.
Youngest ds is 5 and gets hyper if he doesn't get outside or have things to keep him interested. 12 hours watching TV makes him bored, emotional and hyper which is how he's been today. Yesterday I took him to the playground during my break but didn't have the time today.
When the kids are hungry and want lunch they come into the office to ask for food instead of going to DP.
Today I told DD to ask DP for lunch and she came back to me saying he wasn't going to make it because he was too busy playing games!
If I take a day off and arrange an activity DP will join but he never arranges anything with the kids during the holidays off his own back. I get the kids breakfast in the morning and washed and ready for bed in the evening. Aibu to expect more from DP when I'm working?
Most of my 25 days leave is spent on family holidays or looking after the kids and I rarely take days off just because in case I need them for childcare or something else. I'm happy to spend time with the kids obviously and try to spend as much time as possible with them but when I'm working is it unreasonable to expect DP to do the basic daily feeding, watering and 1 hour exercise/fresh air if I can't?