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Accused and patronised

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refuge123 · 30/12/2022 17:58

I've had a tough past month. I was meant to be having a relaxing evening but have become quite alarmed. I've had a walk since then but am still feeling on edge. I may be over reacting?
I am in temporary accomodation. Support workers contacted a charity for me that gives away free things to people in situations like mine. I've never used it before. I decided to have a look at their facebook page myself, and contacted them at about 20 mins to 9 at night to explain my situation and ask for some things. I wasnt under any impression that they would reply until the morning but they replied.
My support workers visited today, to accuse me of contacting them late at night, sending them many messages, (we were having a conversation?! - and if they didnt want to speak at night they didnt have to be logged in) and without going into detail, accused me of leaving mean messages on their facebook page about a particular volunteer being useless etc who is now upset. I havent left mean comments on anyones facebook page, I havent left any comments on their facebook page at all actually. The volunteer has accused me specifically. So they would have had to match up the comment to my account which was impossible. They are aware of my vulnerable situation and it feels malicious. Even whilst taking out my phone to try and show them, which they refused to see multiple times, the support workers continued trying to lecture me on remembering to be nice and wary of the things I say. I've been nothing but polite to everyone I've had interactions with.

OP posts:
cinnamonpearl · 31/12/2022 01:37

You need to stop questioning poster's tones, when it's you asking for help. You are getting plenty of advice, yet ignoring it. Why??

refuge123 · 31/12/2022 01:57

cinnamonpearl · 31/12/2022 01:37

You need to stop questioning poster's tones, when it's you asking for help. You are getting plenty of advice, yet ignoring it. Why??

What exactly do you feel I'm ignoring? I've read everything

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Glitterblue · 31/12/2022 02:15

I don't have any advice but wanted to offer a hug and some 💐

It sounds as if you're going through a really tough time at the moment, things are overwhelming and you're out of your comfort zone. People saying you keep starting new threads to moan are being a little bit harsh- it sounds like you really have been through a lot and tou feel as if everything is just conspiring against you at the moment. I hope you're OK. It's not long till January and people will be getting back to work and you'll hopefully get the help and support you need.

cinnamonpearl · 31/12/2022 04:04

You do you, OP, but you don't seem that engaged with people's responses on this or any of your other threads. If you genuinely want help maybe don't be so aggressive in your interactions...

Wdib78 · 31/12/2022 06:52

refuge123 · 30/12/2022 18:45

I am still processing everything. I've been going through too much at once. I don't like your tone.

You don't like anyone's tone! You have a problem with everyone and everything in your life, you need serious help!

MichelleScarn · 31/12/2022 07:00

I'm just disappointed that you've responded here re mine and others 'tone' when on a previous thread when you've been saying how you had nothing and no food or help that you never even acknowledged or reeponded that I and others actually went out and found places were you could contact people there and then in your area for quick assistance including food bank, community food kitchen where you'd get a hot meal each day and also an open women's aid that you could have got help from that day when you said 'someone' had told you there was nothing till after New year. I absolutely understand it was our choice to do this and you don't have to respond or anything but its still a shame. I do hope things get better for you.

ImaniMumsnet · 31/12/2022 10:36

Hi OP.
We're just bobbing on here to say that we're so sorry to hear you're going through this, OP.
We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged to us we like to link to our web-guides, which we hope may be helpful. If you'd like to, please do feel free to take a look at our Mental Health page.
Very best wishes from all at MNHQ Flowers

EmilyGilmoresSass · 02/01/2023 13:08

refuge123 · 30/12/2022 18:45

I am still processing everything. I've been going through too much at once. I don't like your tone.

You don't like anybodies tone, and frankly I don't think anyone likes yours. You aren't the only person in the world with problems and most people would graciously accept any help. You on the other hand wallow expecting the world to revolve around you and for everyone to follow your direction as soon as you click your fingers. It's your way or no way it seems. And it will get you nowhere.

refuge123 · 02/01/2023 13:33

EmilyGilmoresSass · 02/01/2023 13:08

You don't like anybodies tone, and frankly I don't think anyone likes yours. You aren't the only person in the world with problems and most people would graciously accept any help. You on the other hand wallow expecting the world to revolve around you and for everyone to follow your direction as soon as you click your fingers. It's your way or no way it seems. And it will get you nowhere.

Blah blah

OP posts:
MichelleScarn · 02/01/2023 14:02

Is there any point posting asking for advice @refuge123 given you just then respond with nastiness?

Wdib78 · 02/01/2023 17:28

I'm gonna guess the "abusive" relationship may just be an over the top description of the end of a relationship, partner probably just got sick to the back teeth of "woe is me" in every aspect of her life 🙄.

ilovesooty · 02/01/2023 17:34

refuge123 · 02/01/2023 13:33

Blah blah

That's really not going to help.

I hope you do get some suitable support soon - whatever that turns out to be.

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