Expensive bottle wine

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If you go out for a celebration meal where one member is expected to pay, is it BU to order an expensive bottle of wine, without asking the payer or if anyone else will drink any?

Back story. I am the one expected to pay which is essentially fine. The wine orderer is a close family member but with a challenging history with me. He was very greedy ordered the wine and probably 25% more food than anyone else.

AIBU to be annoyed and think this is rude and grabby?

I think when you offer to pay you have to accept that you'll always get one who takes the piss. In your case is it sounds like they're taking the piss on purpose, so the best thing you can do is smile sweetly and suck it up.
Karma will come, next time they're in the seat you can do the same back!

I don't think you are unreasonable to be irritated. It's very rude of him.

Very rude and greedy.

Karma knows no deadline, your time will come !

There's a difference between being expected to pay and offering to pay.
Can't you just pay for the food?

Why not say no or why are you even paying for him if he does this?

how much is the wine?

Why do you always pay?

If you're paying you can do the ordering 😁

If you're paying say OK ill order some wine for the table?

The one who is paying orders the wine.

You order the wine if you’re the one footing the bill.

Yes, if the bill isn't being split, the person paying chooses the wine.

Very rude and very grabby.

Can you make sure they're not invited again?

Or, say you'll pay for food but not drinks.

There's no context here. Why are you paying. Why is he ordering expensive wine without your say so etc. If you are paying for this celebration meal, maybe he thinks he has permission to push the boat out.

Just pay for the food, and tell everyone to pay for their own alcohol.

Reimburse others later, in private, if you want.

We went out for a meal for a relative's birthday. They were paying for the wine, it was a 50 50 split on red and white so they bought equal amounts of each. We thanked them. We have manners. I would have no hesitation saying something if this person has form. He either pays it himself or you say something like I will pay £x amount towards the bill