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AIBU?

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To be annoyed with DH not getting flu jab?

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TinaTeaspoons · 30/12/2022 14:25

He has 2 autoimmune diseases and has had 3 covid jabs but not got the flu one. He said it's because a lot of people he knows have had a bad reaction to it and he can't afford to be off work because of it. I'm not happy he is taking this risk and we have argued about it. Aibu to say he is being reckless?

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Nimbostratus100 · 30/12/2022 23:27

Superfoodie123 · 30/12/2022 16:55

His body his choice. Sick of the current climate of people guilting others into having medical treatments they don't want. People survive the flu.

Most people survive flu.

Some people don't

Some people survive but are left disabled

Some people survive having cost the taxpayer millions

Some people don't survive having the IC bed they needed occupied by someone with flu.

The jab is £11

XenoBitch · 30/12/2022 23:29

It is his body and his choice. I bet you would rush here to complain if he was putting pressure on you to get any other medical procedure.

Fifi00 · 30/12/2022 23:30

I'm 29 and just had flu, I had the flu jab and I felt deadly awful for 10 days . Your DH should get the jab.

Fifi00 · 30/12/2022 23:32

I'm a HCP as well and I'd say only about 30 percent of our staff get the jab. You do feel awful the following day but I've caught flu this year after an operation and I'm grateful I wasn't very ill.

BRT · 30/12/2022 23:39

YANBU to be concerned & voice those concerns to DH.

YABU to argue about it. Ultimately it's his body & his choice.

anotheruser173 · 31/12/2022 00:45

I've never had a bad reaction to the flu jab.

I will say though, I didn't catch flu, but I did pick up that horrible vomiting bug that went round. So whilst it's worth getting, there are still other nasty things you can catch.

Ultimately, everyone should have the right to consent to their own medical procedures, but when it comes to things like vaccines, I think the people you live with deserve to know what you have/haven't had done, and have the right to express an opinion.

I'm glad I Iive alone, as I would be immensely annoyed to live with someone who dodged such an easy jab like the flu vaccine. If you can avoid getting sick, I mean, why would you?

Wombatbum · 31/12/2022 00:47

My great aunt had hers and has still got flu 😢

Letthekidsplay · 31/12/2022 00:51

CharlotteRose90 · 30/12/2022 15:08

Sorry but I don’t blame him, I have 2 autoimmune disorders and I don’t have any jabs. I had 2 covid jabs and they made me ill then a flu and pneumonia one which put me into hospital. Won’t be having any more. I’ve had the flu twice and both times it was manageable, think I’d rather have that then a stupid vaccine I don’t trust.

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

pizzaHeart · 31/12/2022 01:04

I’m surprised that he knows many people who have had bad reaction after flu jab. Was it his experience this particular year? How did he manage before?

I agree with @anotheruser173
if you live with someone your choices affects them so they do have a say.

We all do flu jab - DD is in risk group, I’m her carer, DH can’t afford to be unwell or bring flu home. He pays for his.

Ponoka7 · 31/12/2022 06:14

Gfozzy · 30/12/2022 16:55

On day 10 of getting over the flu. I’m 34 and it’s completely knocked me off my feet. I’ve been in hospital and now out recovering with tamiflu.
2 people (similar ages to me) suffered a cardiac arrest with this flu strain (influenza A by swab) and one of them didn’t make it.

I hugely regret not having my flu vaccine as I am so incredibly poorly and haven’t been a mum to my 2 boys for over a week and I’ve seen them so scared for my welfare. This is horrific… and I had the flu only 7 years ago which took a full 6 months to recover from

My local hospital is full of people who have type A, they've all been vaccinated. The hospital is turning away admissions and there was talk of a state of emergency being declared at one point. For some reason, strain perhaps? the vaccine hasn't been as effective as it should have been this year against type A. In some cases the vaccine isn't making a difference. It's frustrating but I don't think that anger is justified.

imalreadygone · 31/12/2022 07:32

I had a bad reaction to the flu jab but I'd still get it again.

He'll have more time off work if he actually gets flu.

But ultimately his choice. I hope he's not expecting you to look after him when he gets flu though.

RedHelenB · 31/12/2022 07:52

No reaction to flu jab at all this year. You've told him what you think but going on about it now is nagging. His body his choice.

FatEaredFuck · 31/12/2022 07:55

Anecdotally I heard peoples reactions to the covid vaccines were similar to whether they reacted poorly to the flu vaccine. My flu jabs have mostly been fine, and my covid jabs were too.

rubydoobydoo · 31/12/2022 08:08

I have the flu jab every year and have never had a reaction to it apart from a sore arm except this year's which made me feel awful! I was still able to work though, unlike if I had the flu.

I was fine with the latest Covid jab!

Just got over a very fluey virus despite having the jab though so it doesn't protect against everything.

user1471434829 · 31/12/2022 08:09

I don't have the flu jab. I needed a day off work with one of the covid jabs and previous travel vaccinations have made me feel awful. I've never had the flu and I'm 34, suppose the flu jab made me feel awful for 1 day 50% of times taking it. Vs the flu makes you feel awful for 1-2 weeks. Overall I'm much better off chancing flu than getting vaccinated against it each year. I'm not antivax at all, but for me the risk vs benefit reward doesn't stack up for flu.

maeveiscurious · 31/12/2022 10:29

I've had the jab and now have the flu, if this is mild after the jab...it's really unpleasant, I've been poorly for 10 days

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