Aibu to move now? (And where should we move?)

[Moveor]

DH and I don't like where we live. We haven't been happy here, although it is great on paper (good schools, safe and affluent). The problem for us is how busy and expensive it is here. The reason we have to be here is due to DH work.

DH asked years ago if he could work remotely so we could move and was told no by his work. He has been struggling a lot with his MH and he really wants to move. He is going to ask them again about working remotely and thinks he may be able to now due to how he worked during COVID and also due to a change of role he has had in the meantime.

The drawback for me is that I have just got a new job. It may even lead to teacher training which I would love to do. Also the kids are settled in school and love it there.

Would you move for a better quality of life? We've lived in Ireland and Scotland and various parts of England (moved around a lot when DH first started working after uni). We'd gladly love to either of those countries or another part of England (we are near London). Or is this better quality of life, more space yada yada all just make believe?

Yabu - don't move
Yanbu - move

OP I’m Irish living on the outskirts of London. Honestly, I’d seriously consider Ireland if your DH could work remotely. We will prob move when our kids are a similar age! Mainly for access to family, but also for education. The secondary school system in Ireland is a draw for us, as is much much cheaper third level education for the kids! What’s stopped us moving so far is that we genuinely love where we live at the moment, the community around us, and our roles - so now is not the right time to upend. But it sounds like it is for your family.

Have you explored primary level teaching in Ireland? If Irish is a barrier, It may be worth thinking about other roles in education/working with kids. SLT? Postgrads are much more affordable in Ireland! Some of the allied health/education roles may be worth thinking about.