To be even considering this…

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WTF2do · 30/12/2022 00:23

DC is in year 1 of primary (England), a new girl joined their class this September after transferring from another school. The new girls dad is an old FWB from 20 years ago (we were both early 20’s and slept together about once a month over a year long period, neither of us were interested in a relationship at the time and it ended when he moved abroad for work)

I recently found out that exFWB is divorced. We’ve been chatting a bit at pick up time and our “banter” is the same as it was back then. I’ve definitely got a crush on him (I’ve been divorced for a few years too), and it seems like there’s a spark coming back from him. He doesn’t know that I’m single and I’ve purposely not mentioned it as that seems to keep our “flirting” (can’t think of a better way to describe it) safe. I feel like I’d be so embarrassed if he thought I was interested in him and it wasn’t reciprocated so by allowing him to think that I’m in a relationship it allows me to have some fun without me worrying about what he thinks/feels. (Not sure if I’ve explained that properly)

the logical side of me says that it would never be an option as long term it would make it awkward for our kids being in the same class. But the other side of me would really like to shag him again (sorry to be so blunt)

I suppose what I’m looking for is a reality check on why this won’t work. (But maybe we could just sleep together a few times and that would help me get over it?)

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SingedToast · 30/12/2022 00:27

I think you’re overthinking this. Any form of relationship that would require your children to know is a loooong way off. If you’re enjoying flirting, go with it.

Hellocatshome · 30/12/2022 00:28

Would you get over it if you slept with him or would you end up wanting more and getting hurt if he didn't?

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WTF2do · 30/12/2022 00:31

@Hellocatshome honestly I dont know, I was quite happy with our situation 20 years ago. At the moment the children are my priority and I haven’t even considered a relationship with anyone until I saw exFWB

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CrazyBiscuits · 30/12/2022 00:38

Decide what it is you want with him. There's a reason why it was only fwb the first time round. Think about that and maybe you'll have your answer as to what to do.

Hawkins001 · 30/12/2022 01:38

You only live once , all the best opp @WTF2do

Andypandy799 · 30/12/2022 04:13

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WTF2do · 30/12/2022 09:45

Why the popcorn and face @Andypandy799

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MaggieFS · 30/12/2022 09:58

CrazyBiscuits · 30/12/2022 00:38

Decide what it is you want with him. There's a reason why it was only fwb the first time round. Think about that and maybe you'll have your answer as to what to do.

Agree with this.

JoyeuxNarwhal · 30/12/2022 10:20

So do you want a relationship or back to the FWB situation? How would it be if you wanted a long term thing but he just wanted a shag? Are you emotionally resilient enough for that? Plus you know he's divorced, that doesn't mean he's not in another relationship.

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