I know that Christmas is fraught for a lot of families and I’m a little hungover so I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable..
Context is that I’m not close to my mother and my brother and I have had therapy over the years because she is an utter cunt. I was beaten a lot as a child and never allowed to be myself.
anyway, over the years we have tried to mend things for the sake of our children who have a healthier relationship with my mother…she’s not a bad grandmother.
Whenever I visit my parents I end up binge eating or drinking because I don’t like being in her company. But this one even today seemed to really sum everything up..
My brother bought two perfumes and said that my mother and I could choose. I said I would like the jasmine, then left the room. I came back a while later and saw that my mother had taken the jasmine one and put it elsewhere.
I couldn’t believe it. I would never deprive my children of something they wanted just because I wanted it. I think it is contrary to parental instincts.
The fact that my mother had taken what she wanted then removed it…it really seemed to illuminate her hatefulness to me.
But I don’t know if it’s just normal - am I reading our entire history into it, or was what she did really cuntish ? AIBU ? Or is she unreasonable ?