I split up with my DD father 8 years ago. Over this time he has been very difficult to co-parent with and I've had to call police due to a number of incidents against me - 1 occasion violent, another occasion he smashed my car window and other times are due to general harassment. Despite this DD loves him and I have continued to make contact work consistently as he hasn't been abusive to her - although I believe he is a narcissist and this is damaging to her but there's no diagnosis.
Our issues have escalated over the last few months and is now he's refusing to send DD back to my house. I have seen her seen school broke up before Xmas. I am the resident parent.
This week he has reported me to SS as 3 months ago, I broke one of DDs toys as she wasn't listening, I gave her chances and I had a moment of madness and as I had said I'd break it if she didn't listen, I carried it out. This was a moment where I was at my wits end and didn't know how to get her to see that there was repercussions to her behaviours. I regret it.
Due to this incident and the fact he hates me, he's threatening full custody and I just wanted opinions as to whether he is likely to get it or not. He's started the court process and has called SS twice in the last two weeks over the same issue with the toy.
He hasn't paid CMA for over 2 years which is evidenced although he does work. I have crime references for every time I've had to report him over the years and SS have these logged also. I've had a house move due to his behaviour and a womens DA charity supported me through this. He lives with a partner and he isn't on the mortgage.
Does he stand a chance? He's good with his words and fooling people and while I am getting a lawyer involved and this is due to go to court soon, I just want the reassurance if a parent like him can actually get custody. My thinking is he can't afford to pay for a child, has a record of abuse and doesn't actually have a fixed address where he is named on the mortgage/tenancy.
Does this make a difference?