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alexis97 · 29/12/2022 18:32

When I was young I was a victim of munchausen by proxy from my mother. I was referred to CAMHS due to a twitch I had which was just anxiety and she told the consultant that I was sweating and saying words that I was terrified of even repeating. I always knew swearing was bad so I wouldn't dream of it. I was put on medication for tics and Tourette's She was claiming full rate personal independence payments and benefits creating all kinds of sob stories for the consultants, GPS and reaping the benefits in. Telling me I had to lay it on thick. I was physically scared of this woman. I started having seizures due to the drugs I was put on reacting to my body because I didn't need them. She loved the attention and financial benefits. When it came to school I almost didn't pass my GCSEs I was so ill, I finally found a doctor who knew what was happening, took me off the drugs and gave me the antidote, I was still very poorly and diagnosed with a movement disorder due to the drugs I didn't need causing havoc on my body. I managed to catch up on my grades to which she told everyone she home schooled me and got me there, she did not... school gave me extra tuition classes to help me catch up. She ruined my life I live in absolute agony everyday. I cut her off when I found out I was having my very own daughter due to her behaviour. She was controlling, manipulative and didn't respect any of my wishes, when I told her I didn't want her to wait at my house while I had my baby she cried and tried messaging my husband behind my back, and on my wedding day I asked her not to come and find me before the ceremony as I wanted to be alone. She turned up and wouldn't leave, walked to the ceremony with me and my grandad who was walking me down the aisle. I asked her not to, I cried before my ceremony many tears because of this woman who is supposed to be my mother. Because I cut her off she has turned many people against me.. friends, family and even my twin brother. She put my twin brother through a lot too and I don't understand how he could do this to me when he was kicked out of the house by her I was told I wasn't allowed to contact him or I'd be out too, and I was still there for him risking it all. AIBU to cut her off?

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Dillydollydingdong · 29/12/2022 18:37

Of course you're not! Anybody else would have done it long ago. Presumably you're living with your dh now, not this woman? So what can she do to you? Just cut her out of your life and move on. Otherwise she'll start wanting to get involved with your children and mess up their lives as well.

alexis97 · 29/12/2022 18:38

alexis97 · 29/12/2022 18:32

When I was young I was a victim of munchausen by proxy from my mother. I was referred to CAMHS due to a twitch I had which was just anxiety and she told the consultant that I was sweating and saying words that I was terrified of even repeating. I always knew swearing was bad so I wouldn't dream of it. I was put on medication for tics and Tourette's She was claiming full rate personal independence payments and benefits creating all kinds of sob stories for the consultants, GPS and reaping the benefits in. Telling me I had to lay it on thick. I was physically scared of this woman. I started having seizures due to the drugs I was put on reacting to my body because I didn't need them. She loved the attention and financial benefits. When it came to school I almost didn't pass my GCSEs I was so ill, I finally found a doctor who knew what was happening, took me off the drugs and gave me the antidote, I was still very poorly and diagnosed with a movement disorder due to the drugs I didn't need causing havoc on my body. I managed to catch up on my grades to which she told everyone she home schooled me and got me there, she did not... school gave me extra tuition classes to help me catch up. She ruined my life I live in absolute agony everyday. I cut her off when I found out I was having my very own daughter due to her behaviour. She was controlling, manipulative and didn't respect any of my wishes, when I told her I didn't want her to wait at my house while I had my baby she cried and tried messaging my husband behind my back, and on my wedding day I asked her not to come and find me before the ceremony as I wanted to be alone. She turned up and wouldn't leave, walked to the ceremony with me and my grandad who was walking me down the aisle. I asked her not to, I cried before my ceremony many tears because of this woman who is supposed to be my mother. Because I cut her off she has turned many people against me.. friends, family and even my twin brother. She put my twin brother through a lot too and I don't understand how he could do this to me when he was kicked out of the house by her I was told I wasn't allowed to contact him or I'd be out too, and I was still there for him risking it all. AIBU to cut her off?

I'm asking because apparently I'm being unreasonable according to her mother because she's had a tough life. I can't honestly believe it I'm ready to cut her out too

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alexis97 · 29/12/2022 18:41

Dillydollydingdong · 29/12/2022 18:37

Of course you're not! Anybody else would have done it long ago. Presumably you're living with your dh now, not this woman? So what can she do to you? Just cut her out of your life and move on. Otherwise she'll start wanting to get involved with your children and mess up their lives as well.

I have nothing to do with her anymore. I live with my Dh and Dd. I ask because apparently according to her mother I'm being unreasonable because she's had a tough life. I'm ready to cut her out too. She can do no wrong. I told my family before I cut my mother off I was planning on going to court to take my consultant to court. She begged me not to take them to court and that's when it all came out. It was her fault and she didn't want to be proven guilty. She keeps telling family she thinks I'm building a case against her. Does that not prove how guilty she is??

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