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Family fallout

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DarceyG · 29/12/2022 16:52

Jeez feels like I am always here at moment things are just not going great.

So stayed at parents on Christmas Eve/day with my daughter we open her presents there. I woke up really early and feel over a doll house in the spare which woke dad up and he was in a foul mood. Things went on after that then they followed me home to help bring her huge amount of gifts home.

Dad started getting stressed again, he and my mother started arguing in front of my DD so I told them to get out. I’m the way out my own father said fuck off fatty!!

I was livid! I had put in weigh ly but back to a size ten now. I so mad I sent them messages saying they are abusive and I’m never coming to their house again and definitely not for Christmas. Have not heard a peep from either of them since and I haven’t contacted them? I am I wrong here. Should I be apologising? I don’t want them screaming and shouting in front of my daughter. I don’t do that. I’m still livid and upset tbh. Just wanted views on this. Thanks

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deenel · 29/12/2022 16:58

Thats the best type of reasonable I heard , and not acceptable! Where was yr mum telling him it's not acceptable ? Your her daughter, and yr daughter hearing this , you had years of this conditioning, don't let another generation think this is OK

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DarceyG · 29/12/2022 17:02

deenel · 29/12/2022 16:58

Thats the best type of reasonable I heard , and not acceptable! Where was yr mum telling him it's not acceptable ? Your her daughter, and yr daughter hearing this , you had years of this conditioning, don't let another generation think this is OK

That’s why I was furious with my mother too she goes in major moods that last for ages. Tbh I heard it my whole life and that’s why I am so furious they are not subjecting my DD to it and also the name calling, fat shaming. I honestly feel like I don’t want to speak to them again. They can be supportive with childcare etc for school holidays but their behaviour is unbelievable.

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deenel · 29/12/2022 17:07

Yr kids are priceless , they need to know positivity, not negatives, they need to stand up and be heard not cower to social %0ll0#, I feel for u it's hard, family can be perseverance

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DarceyG · 29/12/2022 17:11

deenel · 29/12/2022 17:07

Yr kids are priceless , they need to know positivity, not negatives, they need to stand up and be heard not cower to social %0ll0#, I feel for u it's hard, family can be perseverance

They are generous and kind but the flip side of their behaviour is just wrong. I have an anxiety disorder and I know it stems from growing up with this. No apology either, nothing! Do they really think it’s acceptable? As my child gets older I realise now just how dysfunctional I had it.

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deenel · 29/12/2022 17:17

Awww babe , its hard, this Christmas my mother hid my kids from me, I have physical difficulties , and she told the rest of my family to lie to me, so i didnt see them, obviously they told me , I knew, so then, I got sent (what can only be described as an urn) with loving daughter on it.
I was told to hold my mouth as a child if something is not on they need to shout from the rooftops then sit on em and put a fire in the hole, it's not acceptable to shut children up , just coz it fits ...sorry gone on abit

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DarceyG · 29/12/2022 17:31

deenel · 29/12/2022 17:17

Awww babe , its hard, this Christmas my mother hid my kids from me, I have physical difficulties , and she told the rest of my family to lie to me, so i didnt see them, obviously they told me , I knew, so then, I got sent (what can only be described as an urn) with loving daughter on it.
I was told to hold my mouth as a child if something is not on they need to shout from the rooftops then sit on em and put a fire in the hole, it's not acceptable to shut children up , just coz it fits ...sorry gone on abit

Wow it’s meant to be a time of loving. Some people become bastards.

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deenieweenie · 29/12/2022 17:47

Kids tell it how it is , let em have there say, don't let your anxieties get in the way , mich love x

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