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To have ditched gifts this Christmas?

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Perditanoy · 29/12/2022 15:33

I hosted this year and said to everyone attending that there was no need to do gifts. Just bring a board game/ quiz they already have at home and any extra booze/ chocolates they might want in addition to what we already had bought. Everyone had a nice relaxed day and enjoyed themselves and gifting element was completely absent. (FYI no children involved, just adults).

I decided no gifts partly due to cost of living crisis and also as had so many years of giving and receiving gifts that are mostly unnecessary - socks, smellies, more chocolate etc. Nowadays I prefer to gift people things like tickets to something experiential (music, theatre) or something I know they really need, neither of which has to be on Xmas day. It might be midway through the year that I spot a nice event for example. I find this better than feeling pressured to get 'something to open' on Christmas Day, which will inevitably be a generic and unimaginative gift set from Boots or similar.

Has anyone else decided to do this? Maybe IBU to miss out this key component of Christmas but I didn't feel we missed out on much from having no Boots shower gel sets or Next socks to exchange with each other this year. Most people I know have no need for these typical token gifts so why waste money? Let's spend that money doing nice trips together during the year instead.

Obviously if there were children involved it would be different but even then I wouldn't want to be excessive. I've read so many threads and stories IRL of hundreds being spent on children each year with little gratitude back or appreciation of how lucky they are. I was quite spoiled myself as a child with gifts and a lot ends up as unused clutter in kids bedrooms.

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LadyKenya · 29/12/2022 15:41

I agree with not buying presents for adults. They are able to buy their own things as far as I am concerned. I have no need for a Boots gift set, or whatever. It works for me, there is no stress, and I do not have to be quietly cheesed off with inane tot. It does not make my Christmas any less enjoyable, not getting gifts.

Perditanoy · 29/12/2022 15:49

@LadyKenya Exactly! I kept buying unnecessary gifts for years and It adds up when it's for several family members. None of it was ever needed or particularly special but its like we're programmed to spend for the sake of it at this time of year.

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MolesOnPoles · 29/12/2022 15:53

That sounds great. I don’t mind buying presents (because I’m in the lucky position to afford it), but I HATE the waste involved of people giving me random crap.

This year we did secret Santa, and you could let the santas know what you wanted so I have just a few things I really like. Much better.

Villagetoraiseachild · 29/12/2022 15:53

Planning on that for next year, Op. Well done.

Perditanoy · 29/12/2022 18:00

Secret Santa is a good idea to avoid wastage too, much easier to buy for just one person!

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