I’m due to be induced at 38 weeks around the 9th jan. I have a friend who lives overseas (within Europe) who has said throughout the pregnancy that she’d like to visit after baby comes. I had said that’s fine but we will plan it after baby is here as I’ll have no idea how I’ll be feeling.
For context she is a good friend but we have grown apart quite a bit over the last 18 months or so. We are on very different pages in our lives and we have talked about it previously. So I don’t feel like I need her around or that I’d be missing anything if she came later.
Anyway, fast forward to last night and she tells me she’s booked flights for the end of Jan and is booking a hotel near my house 🤦🏻♀️ She is also bringing her boyfriend. I didn’t get any say in the planning at all. She said she won’t bring the bf to visit unless I’m happy with that. Which I don’t think I will be. But regardless baby will only be 2 weeks old (but actually only 40 weeks if I was going to term) and is my first, I don’t think I’ll be ready for visitors but she’s booked it now!
Im also concerned about having a tiny baby with no immune system being visited by someone who’s flown in from another country (friend literally ALWAYS gets sick on her flights over and ends up poorly her whole visit when she comes).
I really don’t know how to handle this!
YABU - friend is making a lot of effort (time and financially) to come and see you so suck it up
YANBU - she should have asked and you can tell her not to visit if you don’t feel comfortable