In 2020, I reconnected with a friend with whom I used to be in close contact a few years prior. We drifted apart in 2016 and had known each other since high school in Europe. She decided to message my husband on LinkedIn late that year to reach me, even though she had only met him once for a few mins, and I was a little weirded out since she also had my email. However, I was happy to get back in touch, given the pandemic and losing touch with many people.
It turned out my friend was moving to London to return to Uni, where I'm originally from, and we started to speak almost daily. I live in the USA, so we finally met only this December 2022. I was excited to be back in touch, but a few things have given me weird feelings recently, and I'm finding it hard to speak to her. Just a few things come to mind:
She is desperate to visit my mother, even though they have never met. She's clearly googled her and seems to know everything about her career and where she lives, even though I've never said anything. It's not even like it's relevant or interesting to her interests or career.
She brought up my ex's family in conversation on this trip, especially his mum's eating habits, stating details I had forgotten about and probably mentioned in 2012, clear as day. It was obvious that she thinks about this stuff often and she never met them or him.
I recently was diagnosed with a minor disability, and she said she might have that health condition too - she started sending me diagrams and memes all of a sudden about it. No sign she has it. It's a pretty obvious one too!
My husband is Jewish, and I've started to accompany him to the synagogue to learn more about the faith. All of a sudden, she is now Jewish, and she wants to go to synagogue and no longer celebrates Christmas. She came from a Catholic family and was lighting candles in St. Pauls a few months ago. She got very confused when I said we celebrate Christmas and then changed her mind...
She then told me she was spending Christmas all alone and made me feel really bad about it. Suddenly, her ex-bf ( who she never mentioned) has quit his job in Sweden and moved back to London, and they are spending Xmas together - with his family. She doesn't want to get back together, though, and laughs when I ask her questions about it.
In London, we went to a fancy shoe store that was NOT her style ( she's more streetwear, and this was country tweed), but I had been saving up for these boots for work. She took over the entire experience as she decided she wanted a pair. They did not have her size, and they were closing, but she wanted to try on everything including men's - so I left empty-handed. Later that day, her card declined over a 10-pound purchase, so I paid for this and wondered what would have happened about the boots if they had her size. She does not have ccs.
Today she rang me to say she had returned to the store to buy a pair, but they were closed. So she went to Fenwicks I introduced her to (again, not her style - she loves the skateboarding look), and bought some there...when I took her there, she was not comfortable either and complained about the place.
I get this weird feeling that things are being copied, or she's saying things for effect. In addition, when she calls me it's like she only wants to hear the bad things or will purposefully put something negative there. Am I being crazy here, or does this seem weird?