To think everyone has a better social life than me?

[selfindulgentmoaner]

Name changed for this…and both delighted and surprised that the name is available!

Feeling a bit down in the dumps, and wondered if this is a problem with me or just a general age thing?

I’m in my 40’s; single parent, but have time to socialise when DCs at their dad’s.

however, my social life feels a bit meh…have friends to go out for mid week drinks etc, but don’t have a regular social group and never feel like I’m anyone’s ‘Saturday night’ choice.

I’ve wondered if it’s because my married friends usually socialise with other couples?

or am I just a dull, annoying person that no- one wants to hang out with? ( obviously, no-one on here can answer that).

AIBU for expecting a better social life in my 40’s ? Or is this what it looks like for most of us?

Yours sounds better than mine. I'm sure you are not dull or annoying though.

I am married but never socialise with other married couples can't imagine anything more tedious ....much prefer the company of women friends.

You've definitely got a better one than me. But I don't miss it.

Do all your friends have kids at home all the time? They probably won't have as much free time as you, and will need to spend some free time out with DH.

What you need is childless friends or ones with the same childcare pattern as you. Gyms seem good for this, see who goes to a 3pm yoga/spinning class.

Ask people out, you want to feel like you're their Saturday night choice , do the same back. If nobody is available, make some plans by yourself.

That's literally all you can do.

I never ever understood why posters let everyone know they’ve name changed. Surely if you want to be incognito you keep quiet

@Charliehaus It’s usually so that people know they are a regular poster and not a troll/daily mail.

I mentioned it cos it’s so relevant to my post. I kind of know I’m being self indulgent moaning about this, but just fed up with my 40’s being so bloody boring!!

@Notimeforaname i get that, but it’s a bloody nightmare getting anyone to do anything!

@Pootle22 I think you’ve got a point- I have more free time than married friends