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Christmas presents

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BBK2121 · 28/12/2022 21:22

Hi,

Just wanting some advice. I live with my husband and DD, I have done everything for Christmas, bought all of her presents, wrapped everything ect. I’m really annoyed with the presents I got from my husband - considering I’m one of the only people he has to buy for I got a pair of trainers (that I had to send him the link for), some face wash and a photo. He then bought a sex toy (a spanking paddle which I am not into). I’m annoyed with the total lack of thought, it’s like he doesn’t give a shit, could only be bothered to buy what I actually directed him to buy and when he decided to be creative a sex toy was the best he could do?!?
For context I got him a laptop and about £200 worth of clothes/trainers.

AIBU - it’s not about the money spent, I’m just feel disappointed

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UWhatNow · 28/12/2022 21:26

YANBU. It is lack of thought and consideration. And it’s hurtful. Don’t just suck it up. He needs to be given feedback on why you’re not happy and direction about how to do better in future. If he cares, he will improve.

Thedogscollar · 28/12/2022 21:27

In comparison to what he received I'd be pissed off too. You got the trainers as you told him about them so no thought there then the only bit of imagination was a sex toy for let's be truthful here himself.
Think I'd be using that spanking paddle on him really hard. What an arsehole he sounds.

CakeCrumbs44 · 28/12/2022 21:27

I don't think you can be annoyed that he bought what you asked him to buy (the trainers). Sex toy sounds like it was ill advised - a joke presumably? I think you need to speak to him and next year make your hopes/expectations clear.

Also did he know you were spending so much - presumably about £700? - because if so he may have got you more.

glittermoomoo · 28/12/2022 21:28

Spend less on him.

What's happened previous years

jtaeapa · 28/12/2022 21:28

Take the opportunity to spank him really hard.

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BBK2121 · 28/12/2022 21:29

Thank you for relying. I am hurt - I honestly don’t care about the cost of things but I thought about what he would like and what he needs and I just don’t feel he has done the same for me.

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BBK2121 · 28/12/2022 21:30

In previous years he’s tried to get me stuff that I might like or need. But was really disappointed this year that there was no thought gone into my presents after I’d worked so hard for him and our DD.

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Claddyt · 28/12/2022 21:32

Beat him with the paddle until he gets some sense! Lol just kidding! No men need a sense of direction I would of sent everything I wanted via link so he would get some good ideas as to what you want!!

Thedogscollar · 28/12/2022 21:33

@BBK2121 you deserve better. Tell him how this has made you feel. If he doesn't get it then he is one selfish prick.

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BBK2121 · 28/12/2022 21:35

Claddyt · 28/12/2022 21:32

Beat him with the paddle until he gets some sense! Lol just kidding! No men need a sense of direction I would of sent everything I wanted via link so he would get some good ideas as to what you want!!

I think that’s what I’ll have to do in future - I don’t know if I should lower my expectations, I just wanted someone to show up for me, someone to give a shit about me and my Christmas. I would’ve been happy with a bottle of wine - I love wine, it feels like he doesn’t care enough to think too deeply, and that really sucks.

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Zuyi · 28/12/2022 21:36

I hate getting sex stuff as a present. I can't even say why, but it's really annoying.

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BBK2121 · 28/12/2022 21:38

Thedogscollar · 28/12/2022 21:33

@BBK2121 you deserve better. Tell him how this has made you feel. If he doesn't get it then he is one selfish prick.

Thank you - I did try and he ended up sulking, moping about and feeling sorry for himself, which just made me feel guilty and ungrateful.

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BBK2121 · 28/12/2022 21:39

Zuyi · 28/12/2022 21:36

I hate getting sex stuff as a present. I can't even say why, but it's really annoying.

Same, I can’t quite explain it - it just feels off?!

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SomethingOriginal2 · 28/12/2022 21:45

Well you obviously need to spank him with the paddle.

But yeah it's a shit excuse for gifts and sex toys can be great gifts if he had bought something actually pleasurable for you.

dolor · 28/12/2022 21:46

The paddle sounds like it was something he wants you to do to him, which means he essentially bought it for himself.

He sounds useless..

Workinghardeveryday · 28/12/2022 21:53

Another vote for a good spank for him…

Marypuppuns · 28/12/2022 21:58

I’d lob him and the paddle straight out the door tbh

caringcarer · 28/12/2022 23:42

Spank him really hard with that paddle. Tell him unless he does better next year you will spank him harder next year.

dolor · 29/12/2022 00:09

caringcarer · 28/12/2022 23:42

Spank him really hard with that paddle. Tell him unless he does better next year you will spank him harder next year.

Yeah that's exactly what he wants though.

UWhatNow · 30/12/2022 13:45

Yep that would go straight in the bin or I’d ask if he’d got the receipt and insist he get his money back.

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