Would you be p*ssed off or am I overreacting?

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A few days ago a family member said they were dropping some presents off for our DC.
We were really poorly so they dropped them off on the doorstep.

Christmas morning we opened the lovely presents for our DC.
I took a picture of DC with the presents and sent them a message saying 'thank you uncle X and auntie X for my presents'.

My DP then also sent them a message thanking them for dc's presents.
They replied with a thumbs up emoji.

Anyway, today I get a message from a different family member asking if we liked DC's presents......... Turns out THEY got the presents for DC.

I am feeling really annoyed that the person I thanked didn't correct me and let me know that they were from someone else.

Am I overreacting? I'm wondering if I wasn't clear enough when I messaged them thanking them but I've re read the messages and I was really clear that I was thanking them specifically.

They’re cheeky😂 Should have said something to you.

That would irritate me. Plus feeling mortified that someone thinks I'm ungrateful for something like that.

Send the pictures to the gift giver and explain that you had no idea they were from them and send message to brother saying he should have told you the gifts weren't from them so you could thank the right person. Brothers can be told straight.

I think it was a simple misunderstanding. Either they thought you were thanking them for dropping off the gifts or they genuinely thought someone had bought gifts in their name. I doubt they were actively trying to take credit for someone else’s gift, hence why their reaction was only a thumbs up.

I would go back to the family member who actually bought the gifts and say thank you, apologise that you hadn't thanked them sooner but your brother had implied that the gifts were from him (and hadn't corrected you when you thanked him).

Yes I would totally throw that fucker under the bus!

Original giver should have told you they were sending gifts with your brother and labelled them properly .
Perfectly possible your brother thought you were thanking him for dropping them off then felt too cringe to correct you?

I am reading this as a misunderstanding - when i first read your OP I also assumed you were thanking them for dropping the presents off as you were poorly.

Could they have assumed the relative who bought the presents had included a card letting you know who they were from, or had already told you uncle were going to drop them off, and just thought you were thanking them for dropping them off?

Neither my family nor my DH's are great at communication. If yours are similar I can imagine your brother was asked to drop off the presents and assumed you knew about the arrangement. When you sent the picture he didn't take that as you thinking he had bought them - you were thanking them for dropping them off. I don't think I could get too worked up about it - if he was pretending they were from them that's odd, but his issue rather than yours!

I would send a text saying ‘Just had a text from X. How embarrassing-I thought the present was from you, you should have said!’

So he didn’t get your child a present at all?!

Do this. Presumably you’ve already explained the confusion to the actual gift-giver?

I would just ask him outright why he didn't say anything and just say you're confused and did he drop theirs off too as you can't find them!

Ok the update is - there was a big misunderstanding.

The people I thanked had sent gifts for DC which had not arrived. So they thought I was saying thank you for the gift they'd sent.

And yet they didn't think it odd that you sent them a photo of DCs opening entirely different gifts??

Cynical me would say that they were being CF had not sent any presents at all and now they've been caught out 'the cheque is in the post' (never mind they'd 'sent' presents from them and hand delivered someone else's!)