YABU = Coincidence
YANBU = Attraction
Sorry, it’s a long one.
There is a nice man at work who I seldom
work with, but he seems nice. We really only ever communicate professionally so I don’t know too much about him.
Towards the latter part of the year we worked in the same office while the one I’m usually in is being refurbished. I noticed him staring at me quite a lot but didn’t think too much of it, assumed it was likely I was just in his line of vision while he was thinking, I do that all the time.
Then I noticed he was intentionally acting like I didn’t exist. Such as he’d turn his back to me whenever I was near, wouldn’t ever look at me, but would always stand close enough to wherever I would be. For example, if I’d go to the kitchen area, he’d also go, but stand with his back to me but quite close proximity. He’s so friendly and confident with absolutely everyone but not me. So was guessing that I just probably rub him up the wrong way or he just dislikes me or I remind him of someone he hates. Who knows.
We had a work award night and he honestly didn’t take his eyes off me the entire night. Colleagues noticed and I noticed.
My last day in the office was the next day. I was speaking to the boss and he was standing next to said boss. He didn’t say a word (he actually wasn’t included in the conversation as was about a different project), but again, he just stared at me the entire time with some blank expression. I was about to say “penny for your thoughts” but we had an emergency evacuation (typical).
At the end of that day, a senior colleague was retiring and he was helping him walk through our little clap tunnel. He and I made eye contact and held one another’s gaze for about 20 seconds while he was walking by. We both were smiling. As he passed me, he definitely looked
at my cleavage. He then came back and spotted me and came to stand close, I felt like he was about to speak…then we had another bloody evacuation!!
I ended up getting my things and leaving. Put it all to the back of my mind as won’t see him anymore.
However, while at a different colleague’s house on Boxing Day (she works with him) we were social media stalking while drinking (bad idea) and we looked at his social media, and it’s like a replica of mine. Eg, I go camping one weekend and post a pic on Instagram (yeah, I know I’m prob too old for that) and he seemed to go and post the next. I go fishing and post, he goes the next weekend. It’s almost as though he has copied me. People wouldn’t do that, would they? Gotta be a coincidence, right? We do not follow one another on Instagram but both his and my profiles are public.
The thing is, since that eye gazing / eye locking, I think I fancy him. And if we share the same hobbies then that’s even better?
I am trying to pluck up the courage to ask
him out, but I don’t want to if the avoiding / eye locking is not a sign of attraction. I’m not even bothered about dating, even just a FWB will do. He’s very hot and I am told he is such a great and lovely person.
Thanks if you read all this!