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Partner Gone AWOL

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Moonshine74 · 28/12/2022 00:41

Dropped my partner off at a friends tonight and he mentioned he would probably need picking up as taxis can be tricky where we live, he said he wouldn't be late as they are a slightly older couple/family friend vibes rather than a party mate. I dropped a quick message at 10:30 just to ask if he had a rough idea when he might want collecting, no pressure but I wanted to know as I'm tired. We're now at 00:40 and he isn't answering his phone or messages. AIBU to go to bed and leave him to sort himself out?! He also doesn't have a key.

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Menomenon · 28/12/2022 00:44

Do you know the friend - can you message them?

Unsureofitall · 28/12/2022 00:44

I would absolutely be going to bed!

Hopefullyhelpful1 · 28/12/2022 00:45

Sounds like he’s just got over involved in the night out. He’ll be feeling it in the morning, so don’t worry. Keep your phone on loud just in case

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Moonshine74 · 28/12/2022 00:46

Menomenon · 28/12/2022 00:44

Do you know the friend - can you message them?

I don't have the number for the friend, I know the address obviously but it is a friend on his side of that makes sense, I don't really have relationship with them independently.

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ShirleyPhallus · 28/12/2022 00:47

Yeah I’d be going to bed!

Hopefullyhelpful1 · 28/12/2022 00:50

Your username is rather intriguing! Do you want to pm?

UnicornsHaveDadsToo · 28/12/2022 00:50

Bed.
Divert calls to answerphone or switch phone off.

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Moonshine74 · 28/12/2022 00:50

I'm catching up on traitors so he's got until the end of this episode and I'll be going to bed and turning the lights out! It just worries me more than I have rang a few times now and no response, I'm trying not to look like a bossy partner but it's only because he wanted collecting! If he was getting back under his own steam he could as he pleased Hmm

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Redglitter · 28/12/2022 00:53

I'd message him & tell him you're going to bed at X time & he'll need to get a taxi after that & then go to bed

CaptainBarbosa · 28/12/2022 00:54

Just send one final message .

"Was calling to check you are ok, I'll take no response as you are fine and enjoying yourself. I'm off to bed now. See you in the morning"

Then lock front door, turn phone to silent and sleep 🤣

MintJulia · 28/12/2022 00:54

Looks like the friends have opened a Christmas bottle. I'd go to bed and leave him to get home under his own steam or sleep it off on their couch.

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Moonshine74 · 28/12/2022 00:55

I've sent a message saying I'm going to bed now so he'll have to sort his own transport home, which should be a lesson enough!

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Moonshine74 · 28/12/2022 00:56

MintJulia · 28/12/2022 00:54

Looks like the friends have opened a Christmas bottle. I'd go to bed and leave him to get home under his own steam or sleep it off on their couch.

Yes definitely seems to be the case, he is most welcome to do as he pleases, I just wish I hadn't been factored into the equation!

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Findyourneutralspace · 28/12/2022 01:02

Lock the doors, leave a key in the flowerpot or wherever, and send a final text saying ‘assume you’re having a great night. Keys are in xxx. Have fun!’ And go to sleep…
Its not especially late or crazy but you need your kip

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Moonshine74 · 28/12/2022 01:02

DP has finally responded, he managed to get a taxi and he's on the way home. Now to decide whether I'll let him in now Grin

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toomuchlaundry · 28/12/2022 01:09

Why didn’t he have a key?

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Moonshine74 · 28/12/2022 01:11

toomuchlaundry · 28/12/2022 01:09

Why didn’t he have a key?

Because I took him and he forgot to grab his key as I was originally collecting him.

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